Take it slow ?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about.. almost 10 months. In the beginning of the relationship, I was somewhat ...prude and I didn't want to do something I'd regret. As I started noticing what other girls were doing..like.. making out, etc .. I started to think it was okay. I'm starting to notice, that the relationship is starting to revolve around making out and such. I never wanted that basically.. but both of us talk about it a lot and yeah. I just want a relationship with a guy thats going to last forever, and who I'm going to end up marrying when I'm like 21 or so. Oh and, I'm only in 8th grade and he's in 7th. My questions are.. What exactly is enough for my age and also How do I take it slow and make it last. Honestly, I'm starting to like.. not respect him like I use to..if that makes any sence. I don't know, I may just be overracting.. help ?

I don't think you have overreacting. it sounds like you know what you want. It's okay to make out, but if it's something that happens ALL the time and it seems to be all you ever talk about then the relationship needs to take a different direction, maybe back to what it was. Most likely, since you are in 8th grade, he won't be the guy you are going to marry, but it could happen, you never know. You know what you want and you don't want to do anything you regret, the best thing to do is to tell him you want to take it slow (meaning minimal makeout sessions or no makeout sessions at all) sometimes it's easy for something like making out to turn into something more. Be careful and good luck!

Chances are that this isnt the boy you will end up marrying. Rarely does anyone ever marry their first loves. Losing a first love isn't something we've been emotionally prepared to cope with. We grow, and change as we get older, but I think you are wise as to not want a relationship built on the physical aspect. Young teens dont realize that bringing sex into a relationship changes things, and usually its not for the better. They arent mature enough to understand the emotional impact that having sex has on young teens. Especially for girls.

Mature relationships are built on mutal trust and repect, having sex wont make a relationship work. Having sex to prove your love for someone, is one of the worse mistakes anyone can make. Sexual pressure is a sure sign that the motivation is LUST rather than LOVE!

Each of us has five significant parts in our lives. We have the physical, the emotional, the mental, the social, and the spiritual. All five of these parts are designed to work together in harmony.
One of our problems is that we want 'instant' gratification. When the need for intimacy in a relationship is not met, we look for an 'instant' solution. Where do we look? Physical, mental, social, emotional or spiritual? It's the physical. It is easier to be physically intimate with someone than to be intimate in any of the other four areas. You can become physically intimate with a person of the opposite sex in an hour, or half-hour -- it just depends upon the urge! But you soon discover that sex may only be a temporary relief for a superficial desire. There is a much deeper need that is still unmet.

'Sex to Get Love?'
That`s not a way to get a guy to love you , he`s only using you this way . He hasn`t got any respect for you and he doesn`t love you .
He would be with you physically but not and never with his heart . He probably would dump you after having sex, because he got what he wanted . Not your heart or soul , but just your body. Sex will not make him love you
Love makes you feel good. Sex is just an act. Even when a relationship is short-term and the person goes from partner to partner when something goes bitter in the relationship, it's sex they're after, but love they're craving.'
Sex is a stronger urge in men>Men just typically won't pass up a chance for sex
Sex is no foundation for love. Thats why relationships based on sex dont last!

*You might know of somebody who had sex last week because they were ‘in love’ – in fact, ‘madly in love’, and this week, well its over. Is that love?

*Many teenagers are so love-starved at home they trade their virginity for hopes of finding love. Girls particularly, seek love through sex, only to realize they had sex without love.

*If your NO! makes him or her go, then you weren’t really loved as a person, but only as a sex object, so even in losing, you win.

*True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital sex.