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How to help my suicidal friend?

Asked by grlwthecutz 6 months ago, 5 answers.
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She's cutting herself and they keep getting worse. And when I tell her to stop because she might one day cut too deep, she says it doesn't matter if she dies. I'm worried about her and so is everyone else...even the people who hate her.

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Meee Answered by kkaayykkaayy on Jan 29, 2008, 09:29AM
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Well .. Maybe You Should Have A Serious Talk With Her! It Might Be That Something Has Happened At Home Or Something! Either Way! I Think She Just Needs You .. As A friend .. To Be there For Her Atm! xxx

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kitty Answered by ty on Jan 29, 2008, 08:26AM
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Hmm yeah telling a cutter they might die is generally not the most effective way of getting them to stop... Honestly, unless they want to stop, I dont think there are too many ways to convince them to stop...
There are obviously deeper issues here, she's obviously depressed, or at least my therapist claims you cant want to die and not be depressed. There arent too many people who can fix their own depression... I would try and convince her to get help... I would try this argument, there's obviously something wrong, otherwise she wouldnt be using that extreme a solution to make her feel better. Maybe if she talks to someone they can help her with a more long term solution... Life really doesnt have to suck, and she doesnt lose anything by trying it... I mean if therapy, or whatever doesnt work she's no worse off... And therapists really arent the bad guys, they cant lock her up unless she's at an immediate risk for suicide, even if she is still cutting... a good therapist will try and find other solutions while accepting that there will be set backs... generally focusing on the deeper issue will help with the cutting...

As for the dying part, remind her how many people care about her and would be devestated if anything happened to her...

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kitty Answered by ty on Jan 29, 2008, 08:29AM
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Hmm yeah telling a cutter they might die is generally not the most effective way of getting them to stop... Honestly, unless they want to stop, I dont think there are too many ways to convince them to stop...
There are obviously deeper issues here, she's obviously depressed, or at least my therapist claims you cant want to die and not be depressed. There arent too many people who can fix their own depression... I would try and convince her to get help... I would try this argument, there's obviously something wrong, otherwise she wouldnt be using that extreme a solution to make her feel better. Maybe if she talks to someone they can help her with a more long term solution... Life really doesnt have to suck, and she doesnt lose anything by trying it... I mean if therapy, or whatever doesnt work she's no worse off... And therapists really arent the bad guys, they cant lock her up unless she's at an immediate risk for suicide, even if she is still cutting... a good therapist will try and find other solutions while accepting that there will be set backs... generally focusing on the deeper issue will help with the cutting...

As for the dying part, remind her how many people care about her and would be devestated if anything happened to her...

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kitty Answered by ty on Jan 29, 2008, 08:32AM
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Hmm yeah telling a cutter they might die is generally not the most effective way of getting them to stop... Honestly, unless they want to stop, I dont think there are too many ways to convince them to stop...
There are obviously deeper issues here, she's obviously depressed, or at least my therapist claims you cant want to die and not be depressed. There arent too many people who can fix their own depression... I would try and convince her to get help... I would try this argument, there's obviously something wrong, otherwise she wouldnt be using that extreme a solution to make her feel better. Maybe if she talks to someone they can help her with a more long term solution... Life really doesnt have to suck, and she doesnt lose anything by trying it... I mean if therapy, or whatever doesnt work she's no worse off... And therapists really arent the bad guys, they cant lock her up unless she's at an immediate risk for suicide, even if she is still cutting... a good therapist will try and find other solutions while accepting that there will be set backs... generally focusing on the deeper issue will help with the cutting...

As for the dying part, remind her how many people care about her and would be devestated if anything happened to her...

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diy metallica dress Answered by jazlovestoskate on Jan 30, 2008, 01:10AM
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well its clear that your freind doesent see the point of living anymore
so try and find out why shes so sad and thinking like this
it could be weight issues, family, love, life in general, people, attention, ect...you really need to talk to her and figure out why shes doing this
assure her that you, her freinds and family do love her
you could try getting her help, like from a counsellor
or if things become really bad perhaps tell her parents if they dont already know, and tell them not to get mad at her but to try and help and assure her they love her
...either way this is going to be hard to try and fix
but with your support you can certanly help
maybe try doing things with her or going out places more often
and find out what she loves doing and get her back into it!

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