What to do if i'm scared i won't be as good as her ex

Well i hear that most people break up because of their sex life and well like the girl I'm with still is a virgin and all but like I'm afraid that i wont be good enough for her like from what i hear her bf was big and I'm not small from what she tells...

me but her bf was bigger then me from what she says and all so i don't know what to do like i don't want to do something with her then her leave me because i wasn't what she thought..so m question is should i like try not to do anything and just make out and do what we do now or do it when shes ready and hope she wont leave me?

please help and thank if u can its really going to help me out...sorry if it don't make complete since i just couldn't sleep and its almost 4 am

I say hey....don't worry about what she says...if there is true love involved along with respect it wont matter if you are a complete clutz in her eyes...she will think you are soo wonderful, performace of any sort will be her last concern.

Personally i would not be letting this cuz you a lack of sleep....you are both young learn to enjoy life....really get to know each other....thats the most important thing.... sex should not be the main reason in any relationship. so my suggestions is to just do what you have been doing....tell her you think shes special and for this reason you would like to take things slow and relly get to know each other first.....then when time is right and you feel nothing matters but being with each other...then fine... but until then, just take it slow and communicate your game plan with her so you are not setting her up and her wondering when...why....and whats happening cuz leaving someone in the dark by not communicating will be the prob. communications is the number one thing to make or break a realationship...so work on it first before adding sex to it.

Good luck!

Dear notsurewat2do,
It's not the size but how you use it. Contrary to belief most women find it uncomfortable to be with someone who is big. If you are afraid you won't please her then ask what she enjoys. A mature person realizes that good communication is the key to a good relationship. Never be afraid to ask...not only about sex but about everything in her life. She is a virgin so obviously her last boyfriend never was Mr. Right.....you may not be either but at least you will have given the relationship a fair chance by talking about it.
Sue...good luck

ok well if your relationship is strong enough to even be thinking about having sex then she wont leave you just cause your not that amazing at sex but i wouldn't worry too much about it as sex is a natural instinct so yeah...

ok about the size...if they didn't have sex then it doesn't matter anyway infact being smaller than he probably gives you an advantage on him as it would be alot easier to give a blowjob to etc. and plus you dont want to be too big anyway because you could rip the girl.

ok about what you do. if you don't feel comfortable with doing anything other then making out then don't! but if your fine with it go for it and don't worry about how good you are like i said if she leaves you because your not that good then shes not worth it anyway! but just remember to pay attention to her aswell and make sure she comfortable with going further and everything!

good luck and seriosuly don't worry about the size or how good you are! you will be fine! trust me! and if she does leave you well then she wasnt worth it anyway!!

S*x is only a small part of a relationship. Or at least it should be. If you guys really care about eachother, than you have nothing to worry about. Just don't rush into anything and take the time to get to know eachother really well. And if she leaves you for something so shallow, then she really isn't worth the trouble. You'll be fine. don't worry, be happy!!!