Strip clubs

Me and my fiance talk about this all the time.
Most of my friends will not allow their boyfriends/fiance's/husbands to go to a strip club. Some of them will allow them to go to a topless strip club, but not an all nude one.
Me and my fiance both agree...

that there is nothing wrong with it. I worked in a strip club for 3 years and did work in one when I met my fiance. I only quit because I got pregnant and didn't want to be in a smoking environment every day.
I'm just curious to all the women with boyfriend/fiance's/husbands.

Would you allow your husband to go to a topless bar? Why or why not?
Would you allow your husband to go to an all nude bar? Why or why not?

If we went together there would still be a problem because if something did happen to go down it would be like I gave him the right to feel as if this is something I was okay with I don't think strip clubs are dirty I just see them as a form of temptation and I wouldn't feel comfortable knowing that my man is somewhere looking at another woman's body lusting because thats all it would be is lust unless he actually tries to get and know the person. If my man happened to cheat on me at least I would know it was because it initiated it himself but not by me allowing him to go somewhere that I know could possibly start problems. Thats just like me allowing a thief in my home knowing that they steal.

hah that isnt an issue in my country...since we lack the strip clubs

*wishing he was in the US right now*

Wow, that's crazy. No strip clubs? I didn't know that.

I wouldn't allow my boyfriend to go to a strip club I think they are forms of temptation I trust him and all but sometimes people have good intentions of not doing something but we're all humans and we have the tendacy to slip up sometimes so not topless bar and most def not the all nude ones.

kendra0589
What if you went with him? Would you allow him to go if you were there?

OK IF MY BOYFRIEND CAME TO ME AND ASKD IF HE COULD GO TO A STRIP CLUB I WOULD DIFF. SAY NO because HE WOULD SAY NO TO MY 2YRS AGO WHILE WE WERE TOGETHER HE WENT I WAS VERY UPSET BUT NOT that UPSET AND I AM OPEN TO a lot WITH HIM SO I HAVE ASKED HIM LETS GO TO A SRTIP CLUB I want to GO SOO BAD IM NO BI OR ANYTHNG BUT I THNK ITS PRETTY COOL TO SEE GIRLS GO UN AND DOWN A POLE .LOL..I WANT A STRIPPER POLE MAYBE FOR XMAS.LOL..

Personally I don't have a problem with it if the couple goes together. But I don't think I would like my husband going without me, just like he has said, repeatedly, that I can not go to one with my friends. I think a lot of times it just comes down to respecting how your spouse/partner feels about it. I don't go because I know he doesn't want me to and I wouldn't disrespect him like that. I think that some people get upset about it because their boyfriend/girlfriend goes without telling them. And then the other person in a way does feel cheated on. The way I see it is, we have eyes for a reason and there's nothing wrong with looking.

I wouldn't mind my husband (when I'm married) to go to one, but I'm not sure if I would feel comfortable going WITH him. I'd have no problem with him going with his buddies and what not though. I'd go with my girls for a night out but I don't know, I cant picture myself going as a couple.

princexx
Im sorry I have to disagree with you, your stereotyping strip clubs. They are not all nasty and the strippers dont all have diseases. I have worked at 2 clubs myself a lot of the ladies are married and some even have kids, and they are professional.
Have you ever been to a strip club? Or are you talking about strip clubs you've seen in movies or tv.
Me and my fiance go to strip clubs regulary as a couple. We both enjoy them and have a great time. I see nothing wrong with that.
Also, if your man's fantasizing about other women in bed, it has nothing to do with the strip club. Men can do that without the clubs ya know.

My boyfriend and I have been over this too. I explained I wouldn't feel good enough for him if he went. Why does he need to have other girls boobs and body's when he can have mine? I trust my boyfriend but you also need to think about yourself and the emotions of him having another girl all up in his face.

ktjo
See that's what I'm getting at though. It's different with every woman. Some enjoy going to them as well, some enjoy going with their significant other as a couple also. Me and my fiance go regulary, and we enjoy ourselves. We both have recieved lap dances, and we are both in the room when they happen. I trust my man and to us, it's just good fun.
Some people think that what we do is wrong and it means that our reltionship is missing something, which I dont believe at all.

I wouldn't care because I work at one. It wouldn't bug me at all!

It's like junk food. It's kinda like food but not really. Strip clubs are kind of like sex, but not really. So, if you indulge in either one, it's okay if it's once in awhile, but if you're doing it every day and spending a lot of money doing it, then you have a problem.

Sure he can go to a strip club if he wants, I might even go with him.

Sure he can go to a strip club if he wants, I might even go with him.

I would only let him go if I tagged along. =]

My fiance and I thought that it would be fun to go to a topless bar when we went to Las Vegas. We were approached by a girl for lap dances. She sat in his lap and began to whisper in his ear. I noticed that he was caressing her leg... It upset me very much.It may seem like it is a fun idea until you see a woman rubbing on your man! I had to look away while she finished. Am I being stupid for being so hurt? I can't get it out of my head!