How can i get my parents to be proud of me?

okay so im 16 and my closest sister is 17. Shes super smart and always does really well in school. I get good grades too just not as good as hers, its so annoying when my parents have company over and alls i hear them doing is bragging about how good she...

did on SATS or w/e
its soo annoying, and whenever i say something to my parents they said when i do something their actually proud of they'll start bragging about me. what do i do??

Your parents are being a little harsh- ask them if they only think grades matter when it comes to being someone they can be proud of. Are you a good friend? Athlete? Artist? Dancer? Tell them you just want to be acknowledged for what you're good at too, but remember that at the end of the day, pleasing your parents isn't the main goal. Knowing YOURSELF that you've done your best and you have your talents is what you should strive for, and once you've got that it doesn't matter what other people think.

It is often difficult for people, parents included, to recognize the talents and special qualities of others unless they are flashing with a neon sign.

My brother was talented with guitar and singing. My other brother is talented with acting and comedic stuff. My talents were less obvious, although I also play guitar and sing, my talent was writing when I was younger. Less obvious, you see. Seemed like the parents were waiting for me to show them something to brag on when it was there, they just didn't see it. Mostly because I kept it to myself.

This is, unfortunately a normal part of sibling rivalry. One sibling (your sis) sort of fits in to what the parents can easily recognize as talented and successful as a teen. You have your own things, it's really rather a sad character trait on your parents behalf to belittle the things you have going on. When you get older, your parents will begin to see.

My advice is to take the high road and be polite. Sure, tell your parents when they are together that you find it surprising that they haven't noticed what your unique talents and qualities are. Rather than say, you guys always brag about sister, but never about me. People get defensive and close up. To help them see, don't be afraig to bring your talents out on the table a bit more. Try new things, don't be afraid to show it, even if you're not so good at it. It's impressive when a teen is trying things, even if not succeeding at being th best at one or two things. Be proud of yourself.

Think about this... I am always in the center of attion. And i HATE it... I know some people envy it but when people start talking about my grades and talents i feel like i should just fade in a corner people don't care that i don't like being talked about and i hate going to my mom's side of the family because my dad is a complete brag-o-matic machen going over there is less fun just because every one talks about me. theres just somethings i don't want to be known for. for example I'm 5'12 and only 13 years old and don't play basketball at all. because of that im been called orge at school (not a nice nickname) sometimes i would rather be the person not being talked about. the spot light isn't always white.

i have friends who are sooo smart and constantly bragged about but they hate it cause at the same time the pressure is on 24/7 for them to keep up to everybodys expectations. wouldnt u rather be normal. if your good in school, a good friend, dance or play any sports that your good at than thats good enough dont you think. im sure other people notice and ur just to busy worrying about your parents. personally, i think your parents lack of acknowledgment is brutal and i would just say to h*ll with them, remind yourself how talented u are and tell urself u dont need to hear your parents say it to know it. its not worth stressing over.