How can i get my real mom to let me like my stepmom?

I have a step mom that always wants to hang out with me but my mom hates it when I hang out with her, like last time I went with my dad to the movies with only him, he brought along my step mom and my mom found out and got really mad at me . I can't...

call my step mom or anything because my real mom would get mad. But I really do like my step mom. She's really cool.

Hi msotel!

You might be a bit surprised to know that the problem you're confronted with is actually a common one. My parents have divorced when I was very young, and my mother had a very similar behaviour to what you are describing. But let's talk about you, because this isn't about me

Usually when people divorce, and especially if a child is involved (i.e. yourself), one of the parties tends to get jealous, vengeful and upset with the other. I will take a wild guess (correct me if I'm wrong) and assume that your father was the one who intended the divorce. This is an aspect that turns wives or ex-wives against their husbands. Raising a child on your own is very difficult, and your mom needs to focus on your development and education as her main priority, putting her own needs after.

I would suggest not talking to your mother about your step-mom, because it will only upset her more. You should understand how she feels - even if these feelings aren't justified or fair - and accept it. Try to limit your conversations about her to a need-to-know basis, and avoid putting gas on fire by talking appreciative about her.

Also try to reassure your mother that she is the best mother, and that nobody could replace her. She feels that her position is threatened, and because of her vulnerability, she requires a lot of attention and appreciation.

Good luck, and enjoy the time you spend with your step-mom, but also try not to hurt your mom in the process!

Hope this helped!

Hello.

Wow. That is a very tough situation for you. First of all, it is not your fault your mother feels this way. She is a human being and gets jealous and hurt just like you. But NOT talking about it will only get tiring. I think you should tell your mom that you love her, but you feel increasingly awkward around her because of your dad's new wife. Tell her that you feel uncomfortable enough about the situation and she's not really making it easier. If you don't speak to her about it...soon a void will come between you both and you don't want that. If you do decide to talk to her about it, I would agree that it doesn't mean to talk about your stepmom often. Your mom is just very emotional about the situation, so keep it as nice and quick as possible. :-)

Most likely, and hopefully, she will at least consider to rethink her behavior. As your mother, she only wants what is best for you and she probably doesn't even realize that she is acting so childish! I think with some talking and a little bit of time it will become easier for her to accept.

Hope this helps!
GOOD LUCK!!

tell your mom that she will always be the only mom you'll know. she should feel grateful that you have a step-mom INTERESTED in you. some others don't care about their step-kids. there are other ways for your step-mom to get on your dad's good side so you know she's for real.