Should I stay with him?

Has this guy ever been married before? I mean hes in his late 30’s, and hes worried about divorce statistics? Even though you’ve only been dating 6 mos. i feel at HIS age, if he cant even start talking about making lifetime commitment with you, let alone saying “i love you”, then its no wonder he is still single. (or never been married)

A common reason why men wont commit could be due to their past. Men wont commit if they have witnessed their parents in the past arguing. Their childhood memories could be that of an unhappy one. They may not have been brought up in a happy family atmosphere. If their parents didn’t get on together then they would have seen this situation as normal family life. Men will be much more cautious of committing themselves to a stable relationship if they have been brought up in an unhappy environment. It will take a long time to convince a man that he doesn’t need to be afraid of commitment. If he takes a relationship slowly then he will gradually see for himself that he too can be part of a caring, sharing, happy family.

Another reason why men wont commit could be due to the fact that they wish to explore life to the fullest. They may have dreams, hopes, ambitions to travel the world and experience as many different ways as possible of how people exist in different parts of the world. There are many reasons why men wont commit themselves to a stable relationship but if you take things slowly, build up each others trust and let time take its course then you will be well on the way to establishing a great relationship. Then all he will need is time to realize for himself that there is no reason why not to commit.

Of course there will always be men who will not want to commit. This may be due to that fact that they wish to live on their own and come and go as they please. Only seeing other people when they please. Although this can be a very lonely life, it is their choice and they obviously enjoy their own company and want to do things in their own way in their own time.

Start focusing on the true level of involvement with each other. Is there a genuine connection? Or is there a vague feeling of something missing? Evaluate the quality of your intimate relating. This does not mean how often (or even how good) the s*x is. This is about how open, sharing and real you are in your interactions with each other.

Try to focus on the involvement or lack thereof between you. If either person is disengaged in any way, it’s time to address the real issue of; “Is this the right relationship for us?”