Too much sex pressure!

So, first off, I'm 18 not 12. There's this guy, we met back in November, dated, and now we're just friends. He knows I've never had sex before or even kissed anyone (cause I don't trust anyone as far as I can throw 'em) and the other day, he tells me he...

wants to have sex with me. I don't understand why cause I need to lose weight, and I am, I go to the gym everyday. I like the man, but I don't love him, he's a friend and one that's 22. I want to do it, I'm ready, but it's like something's holding me back. I want to know why he wants to do it with me, how should I ask him? I don't want to seem like I'm some garden tool either. I've talked with my best friend about it, cause he's the only one I can talk to and he says go for it, so I need more advice than that. I feel pressured and I don't know what to do. Like I said, I really want to, I really do, but I think my trust issues with people is what is holding me back. What should I do? Can someone help me.

if part of you is holding back that's your sign that you shouldn't do it. if this guy cares about you he will wait til your ready. to let him pressure u.
hope I helped :]

If you feel pressured than you are not ready to have sex yet. If you don't love the guy I wouldn't advise having sex with him, you might regret it later on. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 18 either. I had sex once this past year, but it wasn't something I was pressured or felt pressured to do. You need to make your own decision. I know you don't want to sound like a prude or anything, but it's your body and you have the right to say what does and doesn't happen to it. You can always ask him if why he wants to have sex, but I have a feeling that he will give the answer most guys do which is I really care about you In my opinion, if he really cares he will respect that fact that you want to wait. Don't let him pressure you or your friend pressure you.

if you feel pressured than your most likely not ready.
you've saved your self for quite some time and it would be a shame if you just lost your virginity to someone you dont trust.

think before you do anything, and if you do have sex with him make sure you won't regret it later on.
also make sure he isn't just looking for sex.

good luck

dont do anything with him if something is stopping you then thats a sign that your not ready and that you know hes not the one you want to loose it to so really think about it and so please think about it before you do anything that you know you will regret later.

but anyways its really up to you only you can make that decision!

good luck and hope I helped!!

you have to think about wheather losing it with this guy is worth it or not. If you love him and you want to, you should do it. The part thats holding you back is probably your self esteem b/c you mentioned trust issues and weight. I have trust issues too, but if this guy is a sweetheart, then you should do it. There are only a few people in the world that a person can trust. And the weight part, seriously, don't worry about it, all of your worries go away a few minutes into it... if hes worth it, you just have to let your worries go, theres always reasons to not do something

oh hell no!! girl!! if he likes you keep him waiting!! it freaken works!! if you keep a guy waiting and play hard to get, he is going to be attached to you. but if he don't want to play that game, then he is not the guy you want to have your first time with. what is stopping you anyways...maybe you are not ready and that is normal. and if you are not ready, then he should understand. Plus you don't even love him, it feels so much better when you do love the person. I kept my first waiting for a year, he was so attached to me, because he loved me playing hard to get. I would even treating bad sometimes, but would apologize later. but that was because he kept pressuring me to sleep with him. but I didn't budge. because I wasn't ready. You need to think about it. Also there is responsibilities you need to think about.

Honestly, I don't think you should just have sex with the first person you meet just because your body's ready. You should ONLY have sex with someone if you love them with all your heart.