So confused

So theres this guy and me and him both like each other a lot and we have had sex. But after high school hes going into the air force. He really likes me but think if he askes me out I will dump him when he leaves so he wont go out I told him I wouldnt...

but what should I do I think im falling in love with him bc hes the only person I want .. Should I keep waiting on him or what help im so confused with what he says and wants to be.

I really think you should wait on him. I am 16 and been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 2 months. My boyfriend wants to join the air force also, so I have learned that when you love someone you will stick by there side no matter what. So stick by him. I think it ill work.

yeah but where not going out and its because he likes me too much to just ahve to dump me when he leave I told him I wouldnt I would stay with him and hes like I just dont know like he doesnt beleive me I mean I;ve been waiting for him to ask me out for over a month he even asked my big brothers permission to date me so I know he has to like me a lot to do that because im brother is really big and kinda scary do.. what should I say to him . I know im going to wait for him to come around but I dont no hom much more I can really keep putting everything I have into someone im not dating yet. I mean thats why I slept with him because I really can see me marrying him and being happy and I think he kinda can to ... so what should I say or how else can I prove that to him!

Hun, sex doesnt prove anything. You made the mistake of sleeping with him without the commitment. Here is something for girls to know learn...guys dont date girls who give it up easily, especially ones they arent dating. I'm not saying your easy, but you gave it up to him with no strings attached.

**but where not going out and its because he likes me too much to just ahve to dump me when he leave** If he liked you too much he would have asked you out, and second he would have had respect for you by choosing NOT to have sex.

You cant expect a guy to commit to you just because he is having sex with you. Guys just dont work like that. They feel if they can get the milk for free, why buy the cow.

um no I didnt give it up easy I made him wait over a month and you dont know him so shut up and he said he wants to ask me out so your Fu*king dumb you dont even know so yeah . he just got out of a relationship over a month a go his girlfriend cheated on him sorry for giving him time so watch what you say thats how you piss people off you oviously dont get what im saying so.

I'm not trying to be a b*tch about this, but its the truth! You made him wait for over a month? Why didnt you wait until he asked your out FIRST?? Thats giving it up easy in a guys eyes!

Answer this...why would he ask you out, when hes getting (what you usually would get in a relationship) for free? There is no reason to.

**he said he wants to ask me out **Then what is he waiting for?

**he just got out of a relationship over a month a go his girlfriend cheated on him**thats NO excuse for taking sex from another girl before making her his girlfriend. Your only a rebound Hun! He'll keep telling you everything you want to hear, and if you going to sit there believe his every word, then your going to end up picking up the pieces of your broken heart. ACTIONS ALWAYS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!

**I'm 15, and might be pregnant - help**remember what you said...? ** I should have e never listened to him...but thats what I always do is make mistakes** You need to take a step back before diving into situations so fast. You seem to fall for guys who tell you what you want to hear, and then you end up getting hurt.

um I only slept with him once I told him I wont anymore and the other thing was way different that was a rape case so dont even compare that

btu I know I letting him know that I care about him a lot and I wouldnt leave him. So but what should I do to prove that.

I'm sure he already knows how you feel, the ball is in his court now. If two people are meant to be together, then it has to come from both sides, not just one. If he truly liked you, and wanted you in his life, him leaving for the air force shouldnt stop him from you being his girlfriend.

yeah I know btu do you think its a good idea to give him a little more time because he said he really wants to be with me but yeah I dont know whsat whould I do seriously should I give up or give him more time please seriously im so confused bc I think I really love him you know I can really be myself around him and I love that I love everything about him

I dont understand...if he REALLY wants to be with you, then what is stopping him? His ex maybe? Heres my honest opinion, if a guy REALLY likes a girl, and REALLY wants to be with, NOTHING is going to stop him! Why would you hold on to someone who says he wants to be with you, but isnt doing anything about it?

I hold on to him because I really like him and dont want to lose hima and im just waiting to talk till we hang out again then if nothing happens im done. but I really cant picture myself with anyone but him!

Then chances are you will be setting yourself up for a big let down.

do you really think that??

I really do. You say you dont want to lose him, but what your not seeing is...you dont have him! So you cant lose something you never had!

What are his reasons/reason for not asking you to be his girl?

he says it just wont work he doesnt have reasons and me and my friend think he loves me but doesnt see that I like him and so hes scared you know.. I and I know I dont have him I mean I dont want to lose him out of my life as a friend and yewah

**he says it just wont work**Someone who loves you would NEVER say something like that!

State a reason why you your friend THINKS he loves you.

Because the wway he is when were together they way he always makes sure im ok and always asking me how im doin and yeah

the way he loks at me and just smiles we laugh we really make each other like im not me unless im witrh him it works both wasy hun