Is the summer ruining my chances with him?

Hi!

I'm in college, and in my first semester, met a boy named Kenneth. I had a crush on him then, but I couldn't be w/ him then because he had a girlfriend at the the time. This passed semester, he turned up in one of my classes, and he got to talking...

a lot. School, our families, our interests, everything! Sometimes he wouldn't come to class, and when he didn't, I would copy my notes for him. He'd always say thank you and say I'm awesome or something. In return, he'd go get papers for me, and turn in my homework for me and stuff. Also, he'd give me compliments sometimes on my clothes or hair or something.

On V-day, school was cancelled b/c of all the snow we got. So, he asked me to have coffee with him. I accepted, and we had a great time. Throughout the entire semester, we have been trying to get together- but something weird happens whenever we do. He's invited me to parties, I've invited him to plays, but somehow we always end up missing each other. We exchanged e-mails and phone numbers right away, so is that good?

The last time I saw him was the day of our final exam. We took the test, and he was sitting next to me. He got the test before him, and he smiled and said good luck before he handed me the test. He smiled at me for a few seconds first, and then I smiled back. I finished the test about a minute after he did, then we went to go get coffee on campus. After that, we went to the duck pond at our school. He was stessing out b/c he thought he was going to fail his next exam-so I tried to relax him and give him a back massage. He really liked it, he told me it was awesome and that he was in heaven, and that I was really good at it. Well, after that, he had to go to his next exam, but before he went, he told me we should have lunch before he goes (he's in NY for the summer ) and I said yes.

I tried calling him a couple of times after that, and I just left messages. Then I tried calling again, and he answered but said he'd call me back. The next day he called and we tried to get together b/c he was leaving the next morning, but he wasn't going to have time to. So, he asked for my address so he could send me postcards from NY. I said of course, and e-mailed it to him that night. I haven't heard from him in a couple of days, but I know it's b/c he's still settling in. So, what do you think? Do you think he likes me? And what can I do about it now that he's gone for the summer?

Oh, one more thing-he was looking for an easy english class to take, and I suggested the one I was taking, and he asked me to sign him up..does that mean anything?

sorry this is so long, but I don't know what to do! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Nicolette

I hate to break it to you, but this guy is definitely on the friendship tip with you.

It also sounds like you are putting waaaaay too much emphasis on the little things. Waaaay too much. Everything you mentioned to sounds like something friends would do. He has had more than enough opportunity to make his feelings beyond friendship known for you. Getting papers for each other, recommending classes, having coffee and spending time at breaks together--that's friendship stuff. Now if he was asking you to dinner or a club or whatnot, then we'd have something to go on.

So if you need further confirmation that it's just a friend thing, admit your feelings and see what he says about it. Give it a chance. He may be really really shy and waiting for you to make the first move, but by now you'd have picked up on something definite, if he were into you. If he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then no need to get all busted up about it, just take this summer while he's gone and go out with other guys. Drop the torch you're carrying. Just tell him how you feel without making it the end all be all of your friendship.

Agreed with juniperone!

Hi,

Sorry but I have to disagree with Juniperone. Maybe getting homework and stuff is friends stuff, but back massages by duck ponds sounds a little more romantic to me.