Small town sadness :(

Asked by skier_88 7 months ago, 5 answers.

Hey everyone. Im new here, but gotta ask a question. Im 15, live in a small town in canada, and am recently depressed, not severely, but im just overwhelmed with issues. It seems as if I have bi-polar friends, who hate me every second day, my parents...

recently divorced, my brothers leaving home for university this coming september, and I have no one to talk to sad If anyone has any advice to help me get through this hard time, that would be great.

Answered by whapish on Jul 19, 2009, 01:36AM
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Oh man, let me give you a hug.

I'm six years older than you, but when I was 15 I felt EXACTLY the same way about where I lived. I couldn't get out of there fast enough. I remember the feeling of suffocation, trouble with my family at home - which made it hard to go home sometimes, or call home home.

One piece of advice: As someone who's recently out of the teenage neck of the woods, believe me when I say that your friends to care, but your age is a seriously testy time for most people. At that age we're all learning about ourselves and we get frustrated and often take it out on our friends. Our ideas about ourselves change everyday, and we can take our friends for granted. But try to remember that the way you see things (particularly with your friends) isn't always the way other people see things - in other words, don't assume your friends are thinking bad thoughts about you!

Another piece of advice: Do vent to your friends. I know they're probably being a bit flaky what with small town syndrome affecting everybody but they'd probably be pretty happy to help you out. If you can't do that, start a blog. Write some poetry. Paint something. Take up an instrument. Write a song. Scream. Cry. Laugh manically (that one's always fun). Just do something to get these feelings out of your system.

And dude, believe me, you'll get through it all. You'll get through it all and you WILL be okay. Listen to music. Watch films. Read some great books. Because you'll get out of there in your own time, if that's what your heart really wants - take it from one who's lived it. In the meantime, you need to look for all the silver linings you can get.

One thing I used to do when I was feeling really upset was allow myself a good cry, and then get out a refill pad and a pen and write out a list of all the things I like about my life. I think that might help you out a bit. There's always a lot more good in the world when you remind yourself to look. Your parent's divorce, for example. it's damn hard to go through, but it'd be a lot worse if they were to stay together and be unhappy.

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Answered by moneyboy on Jul 19, 2009, 12:16AM
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well with the divorced parents don't think of it like a bad thing your gunna have 2 houses thats how I got over it and with the friend find friends that like the same stuff you do and arent gunna be mad at you every day and if you have a phone just call your brother.

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Answered by skier_88 on Jul 19, 2009, 12:30AM
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I guess, but its harder than that. My brother wil be busy with school and wont have much time for me, and having two houses doesnt even compare to having a normal famiy.

Answered by potleaf420 on Jul 19, 2009, 09:45AM
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the only person that can get you out of depression, is you, ya and dont think no one cares, cause theres always someone, just because they dont tell you or show you everyday, theres always someone, you got to make everything better

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