Sister problems

I just been on the phone to my sister and she was crying then she admitted that her girlfriend (she is bi) of 7 years is beating her and been a real cow. the thing is she will go back home today like she always does, she has told me this because she knows she can tell me anything and she needed some one to talk to, but im not suposet to tell any one wich is not good as I am scared somthing will happen to her then it would be my falt for not saying anything, but if I did tell my mum then she may never tell me anything again. I guess my question is if you were in my shoes what would you do? thanks

Kitcat,
By calling the helpline you'll get more information and support about how to deal with this situation. It doesn't mean they will get involved or contact your sister in anyway. I think this situation is serious enough for you to get some help. You can also give the phone number to your sister. Start by finding out what you can do to help and what are the options. This is no way implicates your sister or her partner. Once you have more information, you can then move forward and decide what you think is best. I strongly advise you to get support and help on this one.
Good luck!
Zor

Domestic violence (heterosexual or homosexual) is illegal and dangerous. It can happen to anyone and it is also one of the most unreported crimes. If your sister has told you she is a victim then she is reaching out for help. It is normal that she is in a state of fear and anxiety. The best way to help is to call organizations that deal with this type of crime and can give you and your sister advice. Encourage her to get in contact with an organization and ask for help before it is too late. Most victims feel guilty or find excuses for their partners actions. She needs to know that what she is experiencing is not normal and unhealthy. She also needs to know that it is not her fault and that she has options.
I found a website in the UK (since your profile says you are situated there) that is specific to lesbian or gay domestic violence:

http://www.broken-ra...

Please call their hotline and get some help:
HELPLINE
08452 60 44 60
Mondays to Fridays 9am−1pm and 2pm−5pm Staffed by LGBT people.

You can also find more information, books and helplines on the web by googling:
lesbian domestic violence UK

Be brave!

Your a good friend and sister just by asking for help.

Good luck!

In fact I just do not understand that why your sister did not pack up yet and left that 'cow'. Urge her for this. 7 why is too much time for such a 'bi' relationship.

Domestic violence is complicated. It involves a a lot of phychological abuse too. Often victims have a hard time leaving for lots of reasons. Some it can be fear, guilt, love, low self-confidence and even addiction to the high and lows of an abusive relationship. It can take years for a victim to make a clean break. It can also be a pattern victims search for in their relationships (e.I.: that's what they think love is).
This is why it is so important to get help from specialized organizations that can help you understand what abuse is and how to overcome it.
Good luck!

Then 'kitcat' should sit in his car, drive there, and take her away. This type of relationship is a disaster, sister should be brought off from there asap

Hun, if I was in your shoes I would do everything I could to convince her to leave. I would tell her she can live with me until she gets herself together becos she is going to hurt for a long time becos 7 years is a long time. I would make her feel like she is not alone, be there for her, help her pack her things and leave. If it is necessary you could get a restraining order against her abusive girlfriend so she cannot contact her again and help her get her on her feet again, she needs to get away from this women.

I have told her to leave and that she can stay here with me and my fam, but she said no as I live 30 miles away from were she works and were here son goes to school, and there is no way I can get her to see sence I've been trying all night she said the first 6 year it was grate its only since the end of last year that shes been like this. I know its wrong just like all of you do but its just if I phone some one to get her some help, wile shes not thinking prople is she going to blame me for them braking up, thank you for all your help im going to my mums for dinner later today and my sister is suposet to be going to but if she does not turn up, then I will do somthing about it because I know she wanted to go today so there will be a reason for her not turning up. thanks again