How can i get my older sister to treat me better?

im 18 years old I have an older sister and shes 32 wow I know but the problem we have is that she thinks shes better than me just because shes older.. she thinks she can disrespect me how ever she wants and call me what ever she wants... sometimes I dont...

say nothing but sometimes I do.. it has got to the point were she gets me soo mad I want to beat her up but I dont because I respect my sister.. she sometimes acts like my mother.. I dont like that and I have told her nicely a couple times but she doesnt understand.. she keeps going the samething over and over.. I dont like it when I ask he for help and she tells me that she doesnt want to hear it.. im just so sick of her... im sick of dealing with her and her lil kiddy self.. shes suppose to be older than me and shes suppose to be my role model.. im sooo sad because me and her dont get along shes my only sister and to me it seems like she wants to put me down all the time ... shes always bringging things from the past that she know make me sad or angry.. if I have a problem shes not 1 of the people I can run to.. so I dont know what else to do with her.. I have talked to her but she doesnt understand.. shes my sister and shes going to be in my life forever .. I dont know what to do can you tell me..

For a few years (literally) I didn't talk to my bother. However, we get along reasonably well now. We're much closer in age than you your sister are, however, with family it can be hard, no matter what you do.

You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family.

If possible, hang out with your friends more consult them on more serious issues, and leave your sister out of it. Perhaps she needs space to grow up realize your not a kid anymore, and that, in turn, will make her realize that she's been acting childish herself.

you're 18 n im 15, taking advice from me might be weird, but have you considered telling her this, asking why she acts the way she does? letting her know exactly how you feel when she puts you down like this.

well i hope helped a bit. but if i didnt, im sorry i couldnt

Hey, I think I can help you out with this one...

I have the same problem, but actually, worse, coz i'm the one acting like your sis'... with my 2-years older sister, that is 17 (yes, i'm 15 too, so it's weird to take advice ffrm me too, i guess..^^)
I do put her down sometime, and i can be really mean to her.
But everytime i do this, i feel really really bad, you have no idea... and neither does she... Coz you see, i have so much pride that i can't tell her, most of the time, of much i love her, and how important she is to me.

When i'm mean to my sister, it's most of the time because i'm jealous (yes, I admit it, i'm a very bad bad girl, i know...), or sick of hearing your sister blah blah blah your sister is such a good friend etc..
Maybe it's the same with your sis'. She's just fruckin' jealous of you, coz you're beautiful, funny, smart, a good devoted friend, coz you have a cute boyfriend, coz your parents are proud of you... or whatsoever!
If it's so, then you cna't change it, exept if you become the worst girl in the world... But don't do that.

It could be that she loves you so much that she can't show it to you the right way.
It happens a lot, you know. For example, when a guy's in love with a girl, but he's to shy or afraid to tell her, so he's incredibly mean to her... I know, it's stupid, but that's how people are...

All I can think of right now, as a solution, is ignorance. Ignore her. Ignore aher commentars, the mean stuff she tells you, tells about you. How she humiliates you, hurts you. Be zen. Be cool ignore her totally, she'll get tired of it, and one day, she'll stop.
In the meantime, concentrate and much more important stuff, like your friends, your boyF, your parents, your studies, maybe a holiday job... Have fun, live your life.
She'll get over it.
And, yeah, one day she might change and come to you, maybe even apologize and happy end for everyone!
Who knows?

Good luck, cuttie!

Friendly,
G.

Yeah, I also kinda have a similar problem. My sister is 6 years older that me, and she always gets all the attention, she's really popular and clever. Plus im a guy so i really doubt she's jealous of anything. But appartantly she sometimes mentions times when i was younger, i used to be irratating. I think maybe this image of me is still in her head. Maybe if you really try to get on with your sister and give her compliments and stuff(spend time with her), you'll start to get along. She might also give out hints about what she doesn't like about you sub-consiously, they'll probably be out of proportion but they might give you an idea about what she doesn't like about you, like my sister always calls me irratating and noisy, even though im always really quiet when she's around and stuff ;( . -Plz let me know if any of this helps d(^.^)b
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I have the same problems only we dont speak whatsoever. the last time we had a conversation was about 4 years ago. the problems is my mum also sticks up for her and I hate it. I found your question because right now im sat isolated from my family and thats her fault. she took the mick out of me infront of everyone and my boyfriend and when I tried to retaliate my mum lied for her and made up more bullshit. and that always happens.I feel my whole family is ganging up on me and I dont know what to do. shes 25 almost and she still says things behinds my mums back and accuses me of other things. the only solution I can think of now is taking a pair of scissors to her clothes. seriously. my family dont talk to me because of her as it is. so what difference will it make?

wow these people leave some pertty long answers