What if I'm falling in love with a married woman?

Hi
I think I am falling in love with a married woman at my work place.I have known her for three years but we started talking and getting close in the past three months. She is not happy about her marriage and regrets getting married at an early age. She is six years older than me and she seems to get me like no other younger girl has.I am a different person when I am around her and she really brings the best in me. I am myself when I am around her.I dont know whether to tell her how I feel. I am now finding it hard to be around her because her smell, touch and everything about her makes me want to grab her and kiss her.I dont know whether to tell her.

It doesnt matter that she is unhappily married. SHES STILL MARRIED! You will only be something extra on the side. Most married couples who have relationships outside of their marriage rarely ever leave their spouses! Divorce costs money, where an affair costs nothing. If she is unhappy in her marriage, she should seek counseling, not add a new problem to it. You will only end up getting hurt. Keep your feelings to yourself, and dont act on them. You will be causing more harm. Find yourself someone who doesnt have baggage!!!

Somehow tell her, but do not want to destroy her family life. You have to accept that you may be only a fifth wheel in this scenario.

tell her that she should go for a guy that she likes or gets along with or tell her you like her.

Workplace romance is unwise under almost all conditions. In that she is already married only makes it even worse. I have had the struggle of lusting after woman at work as well. They are up early and dressed and clean and smell good. But I always remindmiself of a part of a song. "not for my pleasure she was created" Just thank God for her being atractive and envy the man who has the right to that pleasure. By having an affair she will only make things worse for everyone concerned. Trust me people at work are already making up stories about you. Brake it off and soon.
Good Luck
Gino

I'm in the same boat, dude. it sucks.

Don't do it. I am on the other side (the woman) married who fell in love at the workplace with a married man. We had a 2 month affair and we (I thought) were totally in love with each other .. everything was great (never felt that way before). He was going to leave his wife (he mad me believe) and I was ready to leave my marriage. It seemed everything was so great and all I wanted to do was be with him .. I didn't care about anything else. We spent everyday together and when we were not together we were on the phone for hours at a time. Well things blew up and our spouses found out and I was served with divorce papers. As soon as he found out about the papers, he dumped me so quick (something he promised me he would never do) ! Now I see him at work everyday and he won't even look at me or talk to me. It's been a couple of months now, and it is so hard to get over him. Coming from someone who has been through it .. don't do it! It is so hard. Not only did I screw up my life, I screwed up my family's life too. My husband is having a tough time getting over it and I feel horrible for what I did.

Devistated, I am so sorry to hear what happened to you...myself, I have fallen in love wit ha woman I work with in another state...add the long distance, and all that is wrong with this relationship...I know it is destined for disaster.
She broke it off this summer,..but when I had to return for business...she came right back to me...

its been my experience since aug'07 to yet. its horrible. both of us cant be separable but cant live together. its so painful, one should refrain from getting into an extra-marital relationship always. its so painful, so unbearable.