*sigh* I dont know what to do

well im 16.. and my boyfriend like just broke up with me... and I can honestly say I was in love with him... I loved him with all my heart.. he meant the world to me...like he made me feel like I've never felt before... we lived like an hour away from eachother but we saw eachother every weekend.. and for me that was fine.. because.. I knew the wait would be worth it... when I did get to see him... and well... he was the first guy I told that I loved him.. and I was the first girl.. he told me he took that very seriously.. and he never once told a girl besides his mom.. he loved him.. until me... and after that... things were perfect... we had the best relationship.. we never fought... and we cared about eachother a lot.. and about a month and a half into our realtionship... we had sex.. he was my first... but I wasnt his frist.. he told me he had sex with his ex.. and there was a couple one night stands.. but I didnt care... because we loved eachother... and I trusted him with everything... but sex changed..everything.. we kinda drifted apart.. and just focused on the sex... and it bugged me a lot... but.. I loved him... and I dunno.. and then... he broke up with me.. because he just wasnt in love with me anymore... and that broke my heart.. I went back to cutting... and I was so depressed for the longest time... but.. me and him still talked.. and one weekend.. I went up to his friends house...and I stayed at her house.. and justin ended up coming there.. and we flirted.. and he kissed me.. and asked me back out.. and of course after that.. we had sex... which was a mistake.. because later I found out he just used me for sex.. that weekend.. because two weeks later he broke up with me again.... and he waited that long.. because he wanted me to break up with him.. so he didnt look like the as*h*le in the realtionship... and I dont know.. like people told me that he never loved me... he used me.. and he cheated on me.. and like now...hes really into drugs.. like realy bad.. and I dont know what to do.. I want to help him.. but he wont listen to me.. and everytime we talk.. we fight... and I hate it.. because I still love him.. and well honestly I think he still loves me.. he just wont admit it... because I was told he only broke up with me... because his friends told him to... and well.. like.. hes different around me.... I can tell he cares... but.. when hes around others.. he acts like a complete di*k... *sigh* I dont know what to do.. will someone please help me?.... I want him back.. but I want the old justin back.. not the justin I know now...

liz<33

Sound to me like you got quite the mess of drama on your hands... I know b\c I've been there.. I know how it feels to lose someone that you love very much... your first mistake was giving him what he wanted that weekend he asked you back out... sounds like you do whatever this kid tells you to do.. don't give in anymore.. you become the sucker.. and if he cares he wouldn't use you.. and people wouldn't tell you hes using you for no reason.. unless theres drama behind that.. and how can you love some guy who does drugs!!! First of all NO MORE GIVING IN!!!!! you have to make him show that he cares 4 you and is he willing? is the question... to me this kid sounds like a real loser... but you love him! if he continues to act like this! Dump his ass on the curb. b\c if you guys are fighting now and things aren't working out.. things will never be the same.. unless you put your foot down! if hes being a as*h*le to you then you have to be a b*tch right back! Sometimes you gotta step up to the plate to get what you want!! good luck!

yeah I know what you mean.... I like want to stop talking to him and everything... but... its hard.... he bitched me out last night... because.. im immature I guess... and because I care about him... because sat night.. I heard he was like doing bunch of drugs.. and I was worried abuot him.. because the guy that told me.. said that he was fucked up and pale and he was going to overdose.. do I called him... and I just got bitched at.. because I shouldnt care what he does.. because its his body and his life.. so I should stay out of it... and thats like bullsh*t.. I cant help that I worry about him.. and like he told me that I need to stop worring so much about other people..because I care to much about them like more than I do myself.. and last night he sent me like 2 songs.. that were all like I miss you.. blabla.. and that sh*t.. so I dont know how im suppose to get over him... when he does things like that...*sigh* its all fucked up

you know what girl!! stop caring... stop trying.. an when he needs you the most.. you won't care and you will laugh in his face when he says he was wrong.. theres nothing much you can do.. you are right its his life and his body.. but when he needs you.. to care for him.. you need to walk away.. remember love yourself.. and also remember its your heart your betting on?!?!?

yeah.. I know what you mean.. im fuckin done with his bullsh*t... because yeah I went to my friend jessicas... the town where he lives.... and yeah... I went to the club. because he told jess he wasnt going.... to have a good time.. and he showed up.. and like.. I was told that his friend gabe told justin that im turning all his friends against him.. which im not.. his friends are pissed at him for bein such an as*h*le.. and for gettin into drugs.. hes just changed... and yeah... so I was crying over that.. because I thought justin was pissed at me... and I looked over.. and justin gave me sum weird look.. then started making out with this slut... right in front of me.. I cried so hard... and then.. the next day.. he calls jessica sayin a bunch of sh*t.. like.. oh im so sorry.. I didnt mean to hurt liz.. thats the last thing I want to do.. because I care about her so much... and im sick of bein an as*h*le.. and hurtin her... and I still have feelings for her.. I just dont want to take the chance to hurt her... and then that same fuckin night.. what does he do? makes out with that fuckin slut again.. and like now there going out.. and shes already cheating on him.. I know because I saw.. and shes like the towns biggest slut.. no lie... and she probably has sum kind of disease.. because she fucked so many guys without condoms.. and shes only 14.. not thats just fuckin WRONG... and like he wotn listen to a word I say.. even tho im just trying to help him out so he doesnt get hurt... but oh well.. I guess im just stupid?... well thanks again...
-liz

Liz,

The problem is that you aren't seeing him clearly. When you remember your relationship, you are only thinking about all the good things. That's perfectly natural since you were in love with him, but you also need to realize that your mind is more powerful than you think and that it is making you believe something that may not be true. The hardest thing is trying to take a step back.. and look at the situation as if it wasn't you. Read what you just said.. and if you read your own words would you really tell this girl that he's a guy worth wasting any more time over? I doubt it. I'm sure what you had with him is special, but it seems really unlikely that out of all the people in this world, he is the only one you can love? That seems ridiculous. My advice? Cry your eyes out.. mourn the loss of a guy, and be happy that all that drama and crap is over and you can move on with your life. He's actually doing you a favor by showing you what a jerk he really is.

Mel

Liz,

The problem is that you aren't seeing him clearly. When you remember your relationship, you are only thinking about all the good things. That's perfectly natural since you were in love with him, but you also need to realize that your mind is more powerful than you think and that it is making you believe something that may not be true. The hardest thing is trying to take a step back.. and look at the situation as if it wasn't you. Read what you just said.. and if you read your own words would you really tell this girl that he's a guy worth wasting any more time over? I doubt it. I'm sure what you had with him is special, but it seems really unlikely that out of all the people in this world, he is the only one you can love? That seems ridiculous. My advice? Cry your eyes out.. mourn the loss of a guy, and be happy that all that drama and crap is over and you can move on with your life. He's actually doing you a favor by showing you what a jerk he really is.

Mel