Should i wait and see if he is being truthful or dump him now?

I have been with a guy for about 5 months now, I met him when he was on leave from prison!! (sounds wierd but he gets to come home sometimes) I really like him and want a future with him. I am unsure about his x girlfriend though! He has kids with her...

and says he will alwayws have some feelings for her as she is the mother of his kids. She is a smack head and I know he is going to help her get off it (for the kids sake) am worried and have a feeling he might do that and then they will get back together. I felt like he backed off a little while ago and when i asked him about it he sadi he has me now and doesnt need to wow me any more. People think he is using me and will go back on drugs and others dont know what to think. He says he wont go back on drugs...which i believe but I dont know If I am being used.
He says when he gets home he wants to take it slow, let him do his thing and me do mine and meet up in the middle. Am not sure if thats his way of saying am going to mess around when am home??? any ideas??

Hi. On this one I would trust your instinct. This situation has all the makings of something that is seriously going to go wrong. You sound like a very nice person and your friends could be right, he might be taking advantage of that. I honestly believe that the people who care about you the most tend to see things that we can't or won't in the people we are falling for.

You said that you feel he's holding, if he's doing that now since he already has you more than likey things will only continue to decrease. Granted he should always be there for his kids and help be a support for the mother of children if she's trying to get off of drugs, but feelings?? Are we talking about romantic feelings? If that's a yes, then that's a RED Flag. Not to mention when he gets out he goes his way, you go your way and you meet up in the middle. That sounds to me like when he comes out, he wants to enjoy his freedom with no strings attrached and he's trying to make that clear up front.

Now again this is just my opinion, but I honestly think you are more into this guy than he is into you. If you do decide to stay with him I would be careful and watch yourself. You deserve a lot better than that. Good Luck!

i hate to say it so bluntly he sounds like a loser it sounds like hes playing you im afraid your friends are right ! girly ... once a crack head always a crack head this is my own opinion but i know a few people who got into drugs and always tried to get better and they fail at it everytime your boy might be off drugs now cuz hes in jail but when he gets out dont be suprised if he gets right back on it ... especially if his babys mama is doing it !. Also i wanted to mention that when someone is in jail they filll lonley , sad, confused hopeless so he may be stringing you along for the attention . if he really cared he wouldnt be saying that he wanted to go his way and you go your way that to me means i dont want to be with you or have any strings attached but we can mess around you dont deserve that ! you seem like a nice girl who deserves a good wholsome man to to treat you wiith respect you have to ask your self do you really want to deal with a man who goes to jail ? look i hope you make the right decision for your self hope this helps ...miss v