Should i tell my husband??

OK- so I have been together with my husband for about 3 years (we recently got married a few months ago). Anyway, I have a condition I was born with called aplasia cutis congenita- it causes hair not to grow in 1 specific place on my head. Basically I...

have a small bald spot where hair will never grow. He has never seen it and doesn't even know I have it. This condition is not genetic so it won't affect any future kids we may have. Question is, should I tell him about it? I never have because I am afraid he will be disgusted with me and leave me if he finds out, but I feel guilty keeping this from him. Please give me your thoughts on what I should do. Thank you.

Yes.

He has been together with you for three years and has married you =]
Obviously he loves you.
And if he loves you... something like 'aplasia cutis congenita' won't affect his love for you. =]

Also, I think you should tell him because yes, because once you do tell him, the first thing he may ask is it it's genetic. And since you said it's not, maybe you can have an article on the condition printed out for it and explain it to him. Making sure you do it on a nice, calm relaxing day =]

I highly doubt he'd feel betrayed. I mean even after being with someone for 5, 10, 20 years... you will never ever know everything about someone =]

That's the beauty of life =]
You find out new things and learn to appreciate each other in new ways =]

Again, just explain to him what it is and how it makes you feel and how it has made you feel that you haven't been able to tell him

I never have because I am afraid he will be disgusted with me and leave me if he finds out, but I feel guilty keeping this from him.

Tell him how you feel and if your love is true, he will appreciate your courage to tell him =]

Good luck =]
Take care
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*** I never have because I am afraid he will be disgusted with me and leave me if he finds out***

...well, nice to know you think your husband is so superficial...

It's not that I think he is superficial, but think about it. Put yourself in my shoes. So, if someone you were newly dating revealed this to you, would you continue the relationship? Now, I know we are not newly dating, but I wonder if that would have changed his mind when we first got together.

I know he loves me, I just don't want to lose him and I don't want things to change.

Yes tell him. the key to a lasting relationship is COMMUNICATION! Keeping secrets from each other will only lead to you two growing apart. Its like sleeping with someone you don't even know. You can tell him something and then ask him to share something with you that he has never told you

***So, if someone you were newly dating revealed this to you, would you continue the relationship?***

I wouldn't care... but then again I'm not superficial...

***Now, I know we are not newly dating, but I wonder if that would have changed his mind when we first got together.***

Would you rather him find out accidentally? How do you think he'd feel knowing that you're keeping secrets from him?

What do you think he's going to say?
''Forget everything I love about you, that bald spot is just too much to handle, I want a divorce!'' Of course not. Just tell him.. he's probably going to be upset that you didn't tell him 3 years ago, but it's better than him finding out on his own.

Hi everyone- thanks for all of your advice, especially kingakoch5 (I found your advice very helpful and it made me feel a lot better about my situation). I told my husband last night, and he laughed at me, said he doesn't care and of course he still loves me. I guess I was just being waaay insecure.

Anyway, a HUGE weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Thanks to all for your advice. If anyone ever needs advice, just let me know. I OWE you guys.

Thanks again!

Not a problem =]

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