Should i tell him to not get the ring?

Phoenix In my Heart Asked by fawkesfire 6 months ago, 1 answer.

My friend has a boyfriend who is about to propose...they are a sweet and caring couple...but my friend has expressed to me on several occasions that she simply isn't ready to get married. She feels she's too young (she's 24) and she just isn't quite...

ready to...as she puts it settle into the wife mold...

Now the boyfriend in question is a guy I've known pretty much my entire life...we grew up next door together and I met my friend thru him...he is a caring, considerate young man with great goals in life (he wants to be a english professor and is currently finishing his masters program) she's a law major and has a good head on her shoulders.

He is overjoyed at the thought of marrying my friend and has come to me a few times to ask my advice on an engagment ring style. The problem is...well...do I tell him what she's told me? Or do I keep my mouth closed. I feel bad helping him go to pick out rings so he can surprise her, when I know very well what's going on her mind.

And I feel I owe him the truth because he is my friend. But at the same time...well...so is she. Gah! I'm actually feeling pretty torn up over here. I think they'd make a wonderful married couple, but I'm not sure if my friend is just feeling scared about marriage. (her parents got divorced when she was 12)

So...what do you think? You think I should be honest with him? I've known him for about 23 years now, and her for a little over 7...I just feel really really confused.

Me - Created by maggot4 (Raven) Answered by ichibanarky on May 10, 2009, 12:59PM
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You really should let him know that she's expressed this concern, and she doesn't feel quite ready for marriage yet.

It will save them both from an awkward situation as well as a huge disappointment for him.

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