Should i stay or should i go

I moved far from home. Over a thousand miles. Me and my husband are not getting along. We haven't for months. He refuses to get a job and we are living with his relatives. He pretends that he is looking and filling out apps on line but I checked the...

history and it says that he HAS BEEN ON FACEBOOK! Plus back home he was cuaght with another girl and out here he just so happened to see a girl from home at a drugstore while taking someone for a perscription. I found her number on his phone and found out his facebook has her on it. My dad said he would come get me. A big part of me wants to give him another chance. I left my family and a great job to be with him. But a bigger part of me wants to go home bc I am sick of him cheating and lying to me about everything. I am torn.

My Mother found out that that my father was sneeking around on her on a person from work. Then My Mom gave him another chance but he eventually moved out on his own to stay with her. His girl friend got peod and started cutting his face with her keys and then later on at work, she ran into the back of his car intentually.

My dad came back and thn two weeks later moved back to his girl friend when she said she was sorry and still they can't get along.

You are in denial - face it and move on where you can be happy, not used...I wish you the best !!

I agree with amblessed

That's a bad situation to be in...On one hand you want to believe in your marriage and try to make it work but on the other...enough is enough. Only you can decide that for yourself. But, try to remember that 10 years from now you could still be living with your in-laws while your husband is playing on the computer. If it was me, I would walk away now while your family is ready to take you back.

Good luck

I belive you should go with your family ,and try to forget about hem a person that realy loves you wont hurt you. I know its not easy to just get up and move but the longer you stay the harder it gets.

Good luck God bless

Can you accept that for the rest of your life, so long as he is your man, you will never feel secure because you know he is a worthless bum who can't be trusted, then go for it. Otherwise please find someone who is capable of loving you, perhaps someone more like your dad.

Moved on too many men to be stuck on one husband or not.

It's a shame that your in such a situation. But the only one who can fix it is you. You have to ask yourself, if this is the person and the life you want to have for the rest of your life, or can you do better.

As a divorced and now remarried woman - I know exactly what you are going through.

Let me just put it simply: At the end of the day, it is YOU that matters most. You have every right to look out for yourself and to ensure you too are happy.

The hardest decision I ever had to make was when I was three months pregnant with my daughter and I left my husband and filed for divorce. He cheated on me... and I quickly learned that if its not that girl, there will always be another as I was enabling him to do so. He knew I'd stay with him regardless so he didn't care.

Finally I decided my feelings and my sanity meant more to me than being with him. Afterall, this was supposed to be the one person that would always have my back, the one person I could trust and confide in - and he betrayed me.

I know from experience that the pain is incredible - but I also know from experience that time truly does heal all wounds. I'm now remarried happily with my daughter from my previous marriage and my newborn son.

Looking back, I honestly believe if I would have stayed with him, I would have continued to fade away. I had little-no self esteem by the time I left him as he kept cheating.

My advice would be to move on with your life and seek out your friends and loved ones for support. But only you can make this decision. If you need to talk feel free to send me an email.

First I would go and ask this to him.

What am I to him?

then I would have questioned myself if I were you.

Am I his slave?
What good is he doing me?
Whats the point to be with a person that doesn't love me anymore?

You'll probably get a bad/good result out of this.

Then decide you faith.

You know you got to move on some day without him.