Should i lose my virginity if i don't want to?

I m a 15 yr gal .. and havin a boyfriend who is 20 ... we both are serious about our relation (very serious...) .but he expects me to make love rite now . I know I m not ready for that .but I dont know how do I explain it to him. I tried to explain it to...

him befour but we landed up havin argument . I don have any such desire ...and somethin like this would be considered a taboo acording to my faith ... and also that I am scared of loosing my virginity at this age . so my question is : is it natural that I dont have the desires now even when I love him a lot .and how do I explain thins to him.?
please help !!

I hate that every 13-15 year old girl has asked a stupid question like this !

I cannot stress enough how stupid having sex at a young age is. You have you whole life to discover and enjoy sex with someone your married too and love. I'm 16 and still a virgin. Sure, my boyfriend wants to have sex with me. But just because he wants it, doesn't mean I have to have sex with him. I have more respect for myself than just giving my body away to a boyfriend just because we love each other. Your still a child. No matter how badly you think your a teenager or adult, your still too young. When I was 13 years old all I ever thought about doing was, riding my bike and going swimming and hanging out with my friends. Not getting f*cked like all the rest of these horny little kids are thinking now.

And seriously think about it, is maybe 30 minutes of pleasure worth 9 months of pain in labor and 18 years of your life raising another human being? I think not.

He is an adult. What part of no doesnt he understand? What is he doing dating a 15 yr old? Cant he get anyone his own age? Heres some very important info I send everyone in your situation!! Please take it to heart!
**Any guy who truly cares about you, would never push you into sex. Sex is a huge deal, no matter what some people say.**
**For guys see sex as totally physical and don't get their emotions involved. They set a timeline for having sex - like your boyfriend is doing - and make an ultimatum. The thing is, by doing that, your boyfriend isn't treating you like a person. He's just saying, he needs to have sex with his girlfriend. But you're not just the girlfriend - you are your own person, with your own feelings and needs and comfort zone. **
** Think about your body as a valuable treasure - something priceless and rare and incredibly special. It should not be shared with just anyone who treats you nicely, even if you really like him. Rather, you should save that kind of intimate physical connection for a guy who proves by his actions over a LONG time - not just a couple of months - that he truly loves you and respects your feelings and wants to be together with you for the long-term. **

How will you know if your boyfriend loves you this way? You will see it in many ways... most importantly, that he will be patient with you setting a slow pace for sexual involvement. Generally, a boy who will care for you after sex is also a guy who will wait a long time for sex without pressuring you. A guy who loves you will treat you with respect, listen to your feelings, put you first in his life, be proud of including you in activities with his friends and family, cheer you up when you are down, and show his love in many other such ways.
If your boyfriend is in a hurry for sex, that is a sign that he won't treat you respectfully afterward. You need to inform him sweetly, but firmly, that you will not be rushed into doing anything so major. Here are some tips on how you could do that:

*If the question comes up while you are kissing or fooling around, stop what you are doing. Back off, take a breath, even stand up if necessary. Then say, I do not want to have sex now.
*Don't let him talk you out of what you know is right. If you make out with someone, no matter how far you go, it does NOT mean that you have to go all the way.
*Don't be embarrassed or think you will sound immature by saying no to sex. Choosing not to have sex is VERY mature. It would be immature to be pressured into something you don’t want! (just remember..you are still very young, hes not)
*Tell him the depth of your commitment to keeping yourself innocent for now. If you don't plan on having sex until you are married, say so. If you simply know you are not ready right this moment, then say so.
*If he tells you, If you loved me you'd do it”, come back at him with, If you loved me you'd wait. Sex is NOT the only way to show your love for another person. If he loves you, he will wait forever if needed.
*Keep in mind that if it was meant to be with you and this guy, it was meant to be right for BOTH of you, not only for one of you.
*Remember, having sex is a big deal and not having sex is perfectly normal. Despite what you may have heard, virgins are a majority in most high schools, not a minority.

SEX VS. LOVE
If you love me, you'll have sex with me.

I love you, I just want to show you how I feel.

If we love each other, there's nothing wrong with it.

Sex is natural.

*At one time or another, most girls hear some version of one of those lines. But guess what? None of them mean you have to have sex with someone - even if you are truly, madly, deeply in love with that person!*

*Love and sex are NOT the same thing. Love is an emotion or a feeling. There is no one definition of love because the word love can mean many different things to many different people. Sex, on the other hand, is a biological event.

Here are just a few of the differences Between Love and Sex:

Love is a feeling (emotional).

There is no exact right definition of love for everybody.

Love involves feelings of romance and/or attraction.

Love does not necessarily have to include, or lead to, sexual activity.

Sex is an event or act (physical).

Sex can lead to sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

Sex can make two people feel closer, but it can also hurt people, or cause two people to feel farther apart.

Sex proves nothing.

On its own, sex means nothing.

*Your teenage years bring a lot of changes in how you feel about yourself, family, friends and potential love interests - even if you don't think about sex. No matter what your feelings on sex are, it may be smart to wait until something feels right. And even then, it's a good idea to wait a month or two. If it's truly love, and it's meant to be, it will survive and even grow stronger without sex. If it isn't, then you will be really glad you waited and found that out, before you got intimately involved on a physical level.*

**The more partners a woman has the higher her risk of cervical cancer, especially if she started early. The earlier you start the greater likelihood of multiple partners. The younger a girl starts having sex, the less responsible she is in who she has sex with. **

You sound like a very responsible girl who knows what she wants. Dont ever let anyone take that away! Stick to your guns. If he doesnt agree with your decision..then you know he was in it for one thing. In my opinion..thats why is has chosen a younger girl...he thought you were naive and that you would give him what he wants!!

Hope this information helps you...Good Luck!

Dear wittykitty,
First of all...he is too old for you and second if he is pressuring you against your beliefs and wishes then he isn't the right man for you to begin with. We date for a lengthy time for this reason to find out about the other persons values and morals. I know you say you are serious about him but there is no shame in feeling you love someone but knowing he isn't the right one for you. Be thankful that you have found out about him now...like I said that's why we date...Take a huge step back from him and tell him you need time to think about everything for a while. This will give you both time to understand that you probably weren't meant to be together.
Sue...good luck

I know someone who lost her virginity just a little younger than you and the guy his age.....They was in what she thought was a serious relationship.....needless to say two days later he left her for another girl and ended up marrying that other girl....so the guy that meant so much to her she does not even get to see anymore....actually now he is married to that other girl.....you will know when the time is right...because she did not listen to herself and she listened to him she lost her virginity at the wrong time to the wrong guy

If you don't want to have s*x, you definitely shouldn't, especially since it goes against your beliefs. It's like asking should I marry a guy I hate? The answer is obvious. If he's going to dump you over s*x, it's because he only wants you for the s*x, and that's not the kind of relationship that's going to go anywhere good. As for it being normal to want to keep your virginity? Absolutely. My personal check sheet for s*x:
Do you want to do it?
In your relationship, does unconditional love go both ways?
Is he willing to wait for you?
Is your family okay with it?
Do you have good knowledge of birth control and safe s*x?

kno u should not.. u should be able 2 tell him look im not ready and he should understand completly.. ii kno that u probley dont want to hear thiz, but take my advice, ii have a boifriend, and ii wasnt ready, and ii be damn if he made me da ANYTHING i didnt want 2 do.. b/c he really lovez mee we have true love, and if he gets mad @ u 4 not being ready, then yall dont have true love.. k buh bye

NOOO!!! don't HAVE SEX WITH HIM!!! ITS ILLEGL FOR ANYONE OVER 18 TO HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE UNDER 18!!! AHHHGHGGGHGHGHHGHGHGHG!!!

if youre not ready dont do it! you shouldnt waste your time doing something that he wants to do knowing that youre just going to regret it later

If you have any question in you mind at all if you should or you shouldn't (which, obviously you do), you shouldn't. I was 15 when I thought I was in a serious relationship. Luckily the boy was just my age and backed off when I said no. We dated for months but after that incident, he left me for another girl. He honestly told a friend of his that I was just too hard to get and he needed someone to have sex with. Till this day, I'm still very proud of myself. Though at the time it seemed right to do it, I listened to that very little instinct inside of me and refused to do it.

15 and 20? 5 years doesn't sound like it's too bad but subtract 5 years from your age. Think about how much you know now in comparison to when you were 10. He's an adult, he KNOWS better than you do. Ok, you've gotten enough lecture from these really wonderful people already about how if he really loves you then he should respect your wishes of not doing it yet so I'll just move on to why you should date guys your age. I know men who say they like to date younger girls because they're naive and are virgins. Some men prefers virgins because it's still **tight down there, if you know what I mean. They say women/girls who are no longer virgins are *loose and it doesn't feel as good (grip their pei-pei) as well.

Be smart, don't do it!

dont do it if you dont want to do it if you do if he complains just tell him no and if he keeps bothering you about it, the tell him no again. and when you're finally fed up with it, dump him, you deserve better

dont do it I didnt want to loose my virgintiy and sadly I did and I regret it alott if I could go back and get my inosence back I would in a heartbeat.