Should i lose my virginity so early?

I have this problem. I#039;m in love and I think that he loves me too, but there are some minor complications (if you would call them minor). We#039;re not together anymore. Yes, it#039;s true. He broke my heart. But, he still says that he loves me...

and calls. That#039;s not the biggest of the problems. I#039;m sad to say that he#039;s currently in a relationship with someone else. My guess is he really likes her, but likes me too. I mean, sure he tells me that he loves me and I#039;m his everything, but why aren#039;t we together. I#039;ve been having these sexual thoughts lately about him. Even though I love him more than anything in this world, I don#039;t want to be the one to mess up anyone#039;s relationship. I do want him to be my first and he tells me that he wants to be with me sexually and as a couple. He even offered oral sex. I just wonder sometimes if that#039;s all he wants from me. I don#039;t want to go through with this and be ignored afterwards still waiting to be in a relationship with him again. I want this, but I want him to love me as a person. I want to lose my virginity to the one that I love and that#039;s him. Should I wait for him? Should I wait for someone else? Or should I just go ahead and do it? I do love him, but I have much more years ahead of me. What should I do?

wait till your married!!!

If hes not in a relationship with you
its for a reason and the reason being hes using you
and being slick about it by calling you and bullshitting you into
thinking your his world
and his true love
dont sell your self short
if hes LOVES YOU HE WILL LEAVE HER.

don't do it because number one hes with someone, two since hes not with you and hasnt broken up with this person theres no way to really tell if he loves you.

even though that was 4 years ago,lol I say that you shouldnt do it

KNOWN FACT:
if your asking random strangers if you should lose it then
hmm
perhaps your not ready maybe?!

people here arent your mom
you are YOU
you decide
leaving it up to random people
SMART MUCH?

I been in your same situation don't do it I did it and now the only time he kals is when he wants sum so don't do it you will regret just like I do??

~~ISAB3L~~Aka L@ Ch@p!Z

I lost mine when I was 13

WAIT!!! If this guy loves you enough, and I'm talking about real love, to have sex with you, then why is he dating someone else? Sounds like he would have gladly forgetten about you and gone with some other girl, but for the offer of free sex. Sounds like this jerk is in it for lust, not love. Save it for someone who REALLY loves you. Take it from someone who knows.

Forget about it. He broke your heart once. Who knows.. he might do it again once you guys already do it. Your first time is a very emtional thing, dontlose it to someone andthen regret it.

ADD ME DOLL
much love

LOVE IS A STROOONG WORD just WAIT, MOST OF MY FRIENDS HAD SEX AND THEY REGRETED IT BIG TIME.
BOYS SAY THEY LOVE YOU SO THEY CAN GET IN YOUR PANTS...OH EXCUSE ME MOST BOYS ;]

I think if he really loved you he would not be with someone else. dont go have sex with him, he obviously does not love you enough to be with you...why should you give yourself to him

Honestly ;
here is the way I was taught, and I firmly believe it.

Boys give love to get sex.
Girls give sex to get love.
...what always happens ? Boys get there way, keep you around for a week or so..then say that its not working out. MEANWHILE ; they are telling ALL their friends about everything about you...and you instantly become the one that everyone wants to get with. While the asshole boys are being ..their normal selves... us girls are sitting with our bestfriends crying saying HE SAID HE LOVED ME. If he loved you, or respected you...#1 he'd dump his current girlfriend... and #2 he would wait until it was the right moment, time and place, and use every precaution in the world.. and he would stay with you because he loved you so much. My big opinion ; wait until marriage. Stop yourself from going to far, wait until a boy really loves you can't hurt you like that. Make a boundry to stay at 2nd base ... and no oral sex. bc, thats just as bad as real intercourse. I don't really now what more to say ... but I think I helped a little as did the rest of the people who responded to this. I hope you made the right decision.

xoxo 3
katie.

Your virginity is the most sacred possession of yours!You can't fling it way for some double faced guy!Seriously!Dont force yourself to gdo something you dont want to do!

well I dont think you shud go baq out with him if thats the case. it seems like he onlii wants you for sex if he loved you he wud have stayed with u. if you really love him try to go baq out with him dont make him do it but ask him and you shud wait patiently b/c if he really loved you thats what he wud do.

ok funmail me I can tell you everything a male goes through or think about a girl

hun dont virgintiy is a sacred thing hun hes playin with your head if he really cared an luvs you like he says he does then he would be with you but hun hes not and face it just another player an I bet your better than that just wait for the right guy b/c hes not=]

Well, what I would do is wait for someone who truly loves me not sexually. Like a slow and steady relatonship that is not all about sex. If it is all about sex than that means they are a wh*res/man wh*res.

HE is A pimp dont lisen to him you may love him but you have to move on if he realy wanted to be with you he would wait till your ready.

I actually understand how you're feeling cause I've been in a similar situation. apart from the fact that it didnt involve my virginity because im so young - anyways, I think you've got too many doubts about him and you also seem a little unsure of how he feels aswell- best thing to do is to wait it out and not rush into anything you might regret 3

sex is just sex if it is not with the one you love