Should I lose my virginity so early?

I have this problem. I'm in love and I think that he loves me too, but there are some minor complications (if you would call them minor). We're not together anymore. Yes, it's true. He broke my heart. But, he still says that he loves me and calls. That's not the biggest of the problems. I'm sad to say that he's currently in a relationship with someone else. My guess is he really likes her, but likes me too. I mean, sure he tells me that he loves me and I'm his everything, but why aren't we together. I've been having these sexual thoughts lately about him. Even though I love him more than anything in this world, I don't want to be the one to mess up anyone's relationship. I do want him to be my first and he tells me that he wants to be with me sexually and as a couple. He even offered oral sex. I just wonder sometimes if that's all he wants from me. I don't want to go through with this and be ignored afterwards still waiting to be in a relationship with him again. I want this, but I want him to love me as a person. I want to lose my virginity to the one that I love and that's him. Should I wait for him? Should I wait for someone else? Or should I just go ahead and do it? I do love him, but I have much more years ahead of me. What should I do?

If he really love you he would wait for you until you are truely ready to lose your virginty. Cause im in that same ordeal. I have been with this guy for a couple months now and he says he loves me and wants to be with me forever. He does talk about having sex like that. But the way he act make me feel that he wants to have sex with me. And I told him if I he loved me like he said he does he would wait until im ready and he left me because he didn't didn't love me or he didn't want to wait. Just because a guy tells you he loves you it doesn't really mean he loves you

If he really love you he would wait for you until you are truely ready to lose your virginty. Cause im in that same ordeal. I have been with this guy for a couple months now and he says he loves me and wants to be with me forever. He does talk about having sex like that. But the way he act make me feel that he wants to have sex with me. And I told him if I he loved me like he said he does he would wait until im ready and he left me because he didn't didn't love me or he didn't want to wait. Just because a guy tells you he loves you it doesn't really mean he loves you

Whoaaaaa...you have way too many doubts to give the present of your virginity to him.

When in doubt--DON'T.

If you do this and he breaks up with you==you'll be thinking he used you. And he'll be thinking it was okay because you said it was okay.

Time is always your friend--give this to yourself and him.

Good luck and God Bless

I strongly believe that you shouldn't lose your virginity over this guy.The way you describe his words aren't easily bought maybe for you but I think he just want to have a sex with you. I think what you are feeling is just a little puppy love, I think you should wait to find someone who you feel more comfortable with. If he really wants to be with you his first step should be leaving the other girl. So don't lose something so valuable for someone who might only want you for fun.

Girl...I think you definitly need to wait & forget this guy. When you are in love with someone, you don't plan sex, sex isn't something you plan, it's something that automatically happens on its own! Him saying he want's to get sexual with you, sounds like he's just after the sex and not after your real heart.

I think you need to wait! And don't rush things...sex is a thing that is not to be played with!!

Love Always,
Heather

Be sure to plan the parenthood part or the little girls goal to loose her virginity will be the biggest plan she ever made. Not sure she is ready to raise a child when she is learning to deal with young love.

my advice is to forget about him there are much better guys out there...if he broke your heart...don't wait around for him...get over him and move on...trust me you will find a great guy in no time...

my advice is to forget about him there are much better guys out there...if he broke your heart...don't wait around for him...get over him and move on...trust me you will find a great guy in no time...

Hey!
I was in the exact position you were in but mine was long-distance. I loved him very much, we were great together, and he of course broke my heart. I was devistaded, I hade no clue what to do. I found out that he was going out with another girl. Then set me off rigth away, anyway back to my point. Most guys think they can do what ever they want to girls, I think that you should forget about him, he says he loves you, then why is he in another relationship, and if he does really love you than he would be trying to make it work out between you guys. He is no good for you or desrves you. If a guy does that to you leave him, even though you love him very much, you have to let go. I did what I just told you, and it turned our great after all. I left him and it took me a while to get over it but, then I found this other great guy, and he thinks about girls feeling, unlike the other guy that I went out with. You will find another guy even better that will not brake your heart, and when he says he loves you, he will actually mean it, and he will try to make things work between you guys, if something goes wrong (GOD FORBID), It will take you a long time to get over him, but you will.
GOOD LUCK!!! I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT

Hey,first I must ask how old you are. If you love him and you know he loves you ,you shouldn't wait. I know parents and friends tell everyone that you should wait until you are married,but what if some bad happens.God forbid it but you can't live forever. You should seize the moment and be happy while you sill have the chance.My ex-boyfriend and I,Rayshard were going steady until he fingered me in the class room and everybody saw. Before that we were unsepratable. Whereever you saw him you saw me and dido. We were and still are in love. He broke up with me on Janruary 30,2004. He fingered me on December 19,2003. That time in my life was very depressing and I have NEVER gotten over that day and moment.When he broke up with me he didn't tell me the reason why even though I kinda knew. That kinda made me mad. If you are going to break someone's heart you should give them a logical explanation for it.and He Didn't!
I love him more than I did now after we are broken up,more than I did when we were together and everyday I regret not making long sweet love to him and I think if you really love him as much as you say you do,you will take my advice and be with the one person you love the most. Don't make the same mistake I did and let your lover get away.Fight for him and justify your love in a spectula way. Be with him in body mind and spirit. Love until you can loe no more. Don't take true love for granted because if you do it won't come again. Natalie Fun mail me

"That kinda made me mad. If you are going to break someone's heart you should give them a logical explanation for it.and He Didn't!
I love him more than I did now after we are broken up,more than I did when we were together and everyday I regret not making long sweet love to him and I think if you really love him as much as you say you do,you will take my advice and be with the one person you love the most."

That's right. He broke up with you without giving a reason. And you know what his shallow reason is. So why do you regret not giving yourself to him? You can only do that once, and how happy would you be if you gave it to someone so shallow? If he was worth keeping and if he really loved you, he would have stayed with you even without sex. Breaking a girl's heart just because she refused to give herself just proves that the guy loves only the body of the girl and not the girl herself.

I really dont think you shuld.First off you wouldnt like that if you were in his gilfriends shoes.And sorry to say but he might dump you after he sleeps wiv u.The whole point is I really dont think its worth sleeping wiv him.And if you think your ready,let it a perfect time not a sneaky time wiv someone whose got a girl.U sound nice and genuingly in love with him but he will hurt u.Take my word tho I know I sound cheeky!!

I do not think you should have sex with him you clearly are not ready as you say you think your ready when your ready you no your ready. do you get embarrased taklkin abt sex to him? or does he 2 u? if so then this is a sign that your not ready. move on and find someone who isn't in a relationship and loves you 4 you please. the boy who loves you will wait til your ready and will not ask you all the time trust me you will regret it l8r on in life. he doesn't like you as much ashe makes out as his with the other girl not u. I no its hard 4 you 2 understand but trust me keep your virginity 4 someone to take who is trustworthy and you feel 100% comftable with.I had sex with my ex who dumped me abt 2 weeks ago we were 2geva for 5 months and he told me he loved me wanted hos kids with me and so on he may of meant sum of it but I lost it to him and he was quick enough 2 leave me 4 someone else and I think that's what this boy is going to do 2 you and I don't want that to happen so find someone else and don't go lukin 4 love let it c*m 2 u. PLEASE!!!!

first off, how old are u?
second,if he loves you so much why is he w/ some-one else....u need to ask him that.
third,do you love him enough to give him all that you got? I mean once you loose it...it anit never coming back....sry thats just the way it is.
fourth,do you belive in safe sex...some people dont...the religous ppls dont and if you do belive in it I would say if you end up doing anything....take some pills or wear a condom please!I dont want to c a fellow chick go down!
fith, why do you love him? what do you love about him? somethings all guys have you just dont know and if he is willing to b w/ someone else and still tell you he loves you and want to have sex w you then think of how he'll b in your relationship if you get back together. he will probably cheat on u....my guess is if he is acting like this you dont want him hes a jerk....I know u'll hurt and everything but you should expect better than that...u are more than that. you could get any man in the world if you really try and act like a lady. make all the boys want u. make it so they cant have u. its a game and a chalange ....men love a chalange. if you can learn to play you can have any one!
thats what I got to say about it all.
hope it helps....
later!
blondie

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I think This is bad. boys and girls lose their virginity very early.
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She should keep it for her wedding night

Boys have to think
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yo wats goodS? im 15 years old and I want to help you cause I had been going trew the same thing as you been to.I broked up with my man because he played me with this girl and he lost his virginity with her so we had a really close relationship we loved each other a lot and we showed it 2.I dont know what happend to his mind that day because he really loved me a lot and he still do and oneday I we were going to loose our virginty but it didint happend cause I had my period so that was nasty loosing your virginity when you have your period.I still love him a lot and I want to come back with him but I cant cause for what he did to me it really herted me a lot.<My advise for you is to loose your virginty to a special guy you know you could wait for the next love .Cause what you are saying is that yall broked up and I wonder why he went with another girl if he loved you a lot he could of try his best to win you back.so good luck I hope you follow my advise are a better advise.

hmm SOUNDS LIKE he is just in it for the sexual side of it all.
I mean face it!!! if he really truly loved you he wouldnt be in a relationship with another girl. bin there done that, STUPID idea. he is still with her, and you are just a back up in case something goes wrong.
GET OVER HIM!!
HE AINT WORTH YOUR TIME!
go out, have fun with your friends, meet some super cute boys, you are single remember!
HE WANTS you to not see anybody, thats why he is saying all this bull.
so go out girl! have fun! trust me, there are guys better than this
D*CK!!!!

YOU DONT HAVE TO BE IN LOVE TO HAVE SEX SO LOVE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT IF YOU WANT TO GO FOR IT BUT THINK ABOUT FUTURE CONSEQUENCES BEFORE YOU GO HAVING SEX WITH WHO YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH!!

Hey I know jow it feels.So let me give you some advice if you truely love him and your heart is telling you to go for it go for it but dont listen to what your head is thinking listen to what your heart is saying.Ok well I hope this helps ok well g2g bye!
FOLLOW your HEART!!!!!

if he really loved you he won't have broken your heart.I think that his looking for a easy rideto tell his friends about.

you love him. I think you should be with him, sleep with him everything. sex is great. and if your having these feelings they need to be sorted. this girl he's with cant be overly exciting if he says hes still all into you. and oral, fully take him up on that babe. you dont know what your missing. go for gold, put yourself out there. don't forget to wax!!

if he loved you then he would under stand that if you are going to lose your vaginaty that he needs to be with you and respect you. hes playin ya babe he just wants sex soz but itz da truth.

luv from thenaughtyone xx

READ THIS NOW NO IF HE'S WITH ANOTHER GIRL THEN HE'S ALL READY MADE HES PICK IF TWO PEOPLE ARE WITH ONEANTHER AND SOME ONE COME'S ALONG TO TAKE ONE AND HE GO'S HE VALUES HER MORE SORRY TO SAY IT I KNOW IT HURT'S BUT YOU ONLY WANT TO LOSE IT TO HIM BECAUSE you SEE THAT AS A WAY OF GETING HIM BACK (YOUR DOING IT WITHOUT KNOWING THAT YOU ARE) YOU HAVE TO ASK HIM WHO CAN HE LIVE WITHOUT YOU OR HER? HIS ANSWER WILL LET YOU KNOW.

im 16. I dated the man that I thought I was going to marry for about a year. 2 mnths into our relationship he told me I was the one for him and that he was starting to save money to buy me a ring. when I was getting my hair done for my sweet sixteen he came walking in got down on one knee in the middle of the hair salon and proposed of course being as happy as I was that day I said yes. we had sex when I was 15 he was 17 and I do not regret anything because he was the one that I loved whole heartedly ...we grew up together and so we were bestfriends first and it seems like thats where your 'relationship' had started off from as well I say if you really love him and think he is the one for you...voice your opinion to him and let him know what you think ...whatever you do dont accuse him but just try questioning him in a concerned manner... see what he says and base your judement on that. I wish you the best. and if hes the one for you and you feel it in your heart go for it...and god forbid something is to happen and you end up not together just dont regret anything because at one point in time it was exactly what you wanted <3 casey

I think you would not ask if you should if you were ready wait until he is not with the other girl and see if he'll come back to you if he waits he is worth loosing your virginity to. I was 15 when I lost mine and I am not with him anymore but I am glad I did while I was with him. I am married now to a different guy and he know about my past and were ok so its up to you . If you are ready then go for it... Think about it though.... Make sure your ready and make sure he is the one you want to give yourself too!

sounds like he only tells you these things because he wants s*x. if he really loved you he would be by your side waiting until your ready instead with another girl and probably sleeping with her. I'm really really sorry for being so forward but I see this all the time. don't lose your virginity so early. save it for your wedding night. trust me I am

its obvious thats he's having his cake and eating it, is he really worth waiting for, I've seen this bebore, he is just using you, if his other girlfriend has her period, then he is going to turn to you for sex instead, don't be stupidin my opinon find some one who really cares about you, he say he cares but deep down he just wants to take your virginity thats all he's interested in im afraid. If you want to chat personally then here's my email address Fun mail me contact me at any time

dont do it hes jsut playing you

as a guy myself I say wait, if he says he loves yet he's out with someone else he's probly just trying to get lucky... some men are men like that

wait if he asks you out a again and you feel it's right then go ahead, but don't do anything just to get him back he's not worth it. it sounds like he's playing you to me which is wrong.

I can say this because twice I was preassured to have sex - once by the guy , then by my freinds with a diffreent guy - both time si said no because I figured out it wasn't real, - I waited for the right guy. if this guys the right guy you'll be bale to wait and he'll come back to you wihtout the promise of sex.

my opinion - but whatever you do make sure your S.A.F.E.

no you shouldnt! he just wants 1 thing from you and think you know it! wait 4 someone else! trust me he will com

no you shouldnt! he just wants 1 thing from you and think you know it! wait 4 someone else! trust me he will com

Knowiing your age might have helped.All the same is obvious the guy wants your body.Sex is not the same thing as love.You might be sexually attracted to someone and yet not luv him.My opinion is dont do it until you have settle it within you because it is your body and you will carry the scare.You can however talk to him and if he truly loves you he will come back but be prepared to forget about him and move on with yoiur life.You will definately find someone who can take you for what you are. I

hun, if he broke your heart, do NOT have sex with him. he is probably just using you. whenever he doesnt have his other girlfriend he has u. believe me, if you have sex early, you WILL regret it. you might even get pregnant and that would ruin your life. if he really loves you, he would not have hurt you. my opnion cuss him off and say no.

hey girl?I am happy to meet some one like me.however I will advice you not to give up your virginity for him this is because he is more interested in sex than in the love you guys share never,I repeat,never think you can love once I believe you are justing getting into the dating thing and I bet you,someone is there some where who is worth your body and soul.bet me.I promise you.there is this American hip hop tittle S.E.Xi have 4gotten the artist that will tell you exactly what I mean .I am one too and I have not dated since I was a kid because I am scared thay will come to me for sex and guess what I am 19 and many promise love,ibut all I see in their eyes is lust . think hard because viginity comes one in your like and a husband who takes you as pure as you are will cherish you for life because he knows who you are but imagine if the one you love gets what he wants and runs off?it would be double the natural taumer.well I guess and hope you will visit and answer my own question in my profile.

babe listen guys will SAY and DO anything to get into your pants. save yourself for that speciall guy and dont rush it being a virgin is not a desease. please listen to me and all the other people on this do not give him your virginity you are worth more than that. he just wants you because mabey he is gettin bored with that other lassie. I can understand how much you want to you dont want the sex you want it is to remember how it feels to have him in your arms agen and to kiss him agen and b with him agen ino how tempting it is but dont do it because if you do you will regret it and your virginity is sonthing you CANT tke back. hope I helped good luck and get back to me on this k xxx

save it for the one you love

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Did you do it??? 5 years ago, I'm sure you did it.

I think you should keep your verginity cz its the most precious thing that womens have until you get married you husband will repect you more and love you more..

hun... don't do that..
if he really loves you, he would be with you!
maybe what your looking for is love and what he's looking for is a friend with benefits...

wait till your married!!!

I really hope she didn't lose it. That was crazy. I had more since at that age to know that the answer would be NO.

If hes not in a relationship with you
its for a reason and the reason being hes using you
and being slick about it by calling you and bullshitting you into
thinking your his world
and his true love
dont sell your self short
if hes LOVES YOU HE WILL LEAVE HER.

don't do it because number one hes with someone, two since hes not with you and hasnt broken up with this person theres no way to really tell if he loves you.

even though that was 4 years ago,lol I say that you shouldnt do it

KNOWN FACT:
if your asking random strangers if you should lose it then
hmm
perhaps your not ready maybe?!

people here arent your mom
you are YOU
you decide
leaving it up to random people
SMART MUCH?

I been in your same situation don't do it I did it and now the only time he kals is when he wants sum so don't do it you will regret just like I do??

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