Should I have this affair?

My husband of six months that I love dearly is sexually dead. I am very adventurous and the man I dated before him shared my desires and we had a very healthy and enjoyable sex life. My husband is lazy, has low self-esteem, and always wants to make love and not the more crazy stuff I like to do, and refuses to move from his 'that's just not my style' stance. He's intimidated by my knowledge and I just want to help and teach him but he just locks up and refuses and wants sex only on his terms, but still lovingly. I do love him, our personalities are perfect together, but I just feel that those things we have in common aren't going to help this marriage survive. So back to the old lover. I called him up, as before we were lovers, we were good friends, and asked his advice. A few months later our former lust for each other has returned and I'm just DYING to have him again. My husband is not abusive, mean, or a *bad* lover per se, but our styles are completely different, and I just want to get my ya-ya's out with this other man just ONE MORE TIME. I feel ashamed about my sexual desires (the fantasies my husband refuses to participate in) because my husband has called me a freak and a nympho. We 'make love' once a month and he's done with it before I can say 'okay, let's start', and we're both in our mid twenties. It's driving me bananas. There is no 'lighting the fire' in our sex life, and the love I feel for him doesn't help the sex enough to be enjoyable because I feel so supressed. Last night, I 'worked a extra half-shift' and went to his house, explained these feelings, and he (who is divorced due to HIS ex-wife's infidelity years ago) said I should go for it, and he'd be fine with it either way. So I gave him oral. I was so thrilled and giddy and didn't feel guilty at all, it was so fun. I have the option this weekend to go away overnight with him and really do the deed, as if I haven't already overstepped my boundaries. But sadly, I've already talked to my husband about our sex life and he's so stubborn and that hurts. So, should I really consider going this weekend? I can back out now and say 'well I tried something' and back into my dull sexual relationship? Or should I get my sexual frustration a run for it's money? My only problem is, I might enjoy it so much I'll want more, and I'd rather this be an infrequent type of thing, not an uncontrollable passion kinda thing, just something fun to mix things up. I must sound awful ... thanks

No I honestly dont think you should do it, seriously. Try and talk to your husband agian. I really dont know his problem at all, you think he'd like to have a chick that loves wild sex. Maybe something is wrong with him emtionally??? im not sure but you are married dont have an affair thats just wrong... and you might regret it later on. Think about your husband here please. And if he wont talk just say to him 'well im so sexually frustrated and why wont you satify me? whats going on?' try and talk to him ... agian.....

As a man I tell you that if you are really unsatisfied by your husband's performance you can make love with your old lover or somebody else few times a month, but certainly not being far for days, for weekends, or something similar. I am afraid, that will finish your marriage. I think that any type of deep talks to anybody will not help if the partners' sexual needs are different. The only possibility to separate your sexual needs from your other needs. So you can enjoy the everyday life with your husband (if so!), and the sex with somebody else, time to time. Anyway, this is a typical older-husband's solution of this problem. Brothels and nice secrataries are living from this male attitude

As a man I tell you that if you are really unsatisfied by your husband's performance you can make love with your old lover or somebody else few times a month, but certainly not being far for days, for weekends, or something similar. I am afraid, that will finish your marriage. I think that any type of deep talks to anybody will not help if the partners' sexual needs are different. The only possibility to separate your sexual needs from your other needs. So you can enjoy the everyday life with your husband (if so!), and the sex with somebody else, time to time. Anyway, this is a typical older-husband's solution of this problem. Brothels and nice secrataries are living from this male attitude

I can relate to your situation, and can tell you it won't be just for this one weekend that you will meet up with your ex lover and your husband will remain the same unless you can possibly approach counseling.. I've been where you are.

Its not fair to somehow cheat your husband. Try to seduce once in a while and mostly romance makes sex more alive. Romance him until he wants, then leave him, he will come back for you. Talk to your husband, try to make him understand that love is more strong with sex alive and if he is very sure he wants you in his life, he should put more effort not to RELAX all the time and try to please the women in his life.....

Its not fair to somehow cheat your husband. Try to seduce once in a while and mostly romance makes sex more alive. Romance him until he wants, then leave him, he will come back for you. Talk to your husband, try to make him understand that love is more strong with sex alive and if he is very sure he wants you in his life, he should put more effort not to RELAX all the time and try to please the women in his life.....

I cheat from time to time on my husband for sex. If you need it you need it. I love my husband so much it is just that our relationship I want more than he was giving me I have never been caught and he don't know. We are doing good and I fell so much better sense I was getting the sex I needed.It is important to get pleasure.

wow um why would you cheat on your husband for sex thats pretty stupid remember you made a VOW just talk to him and get a little flirty so he gets excited