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Should i go to a classmate's funeral?

the beatles Asked by iamcool about 1 year ago, 12 answers.

Some of you may know that a girl called Natasha died last tuesday, and she was in my year at school. Her funeral is on Monday, and my mum and one of my friends said it would be a nice thing if I went, and it's not that I have anything against going, it's...

just that I always feel really uncomfortable at funerals, and I don't deal with sad people well. I also didn't know her or her family that well, so I don't know wether I should go. Also, if I do go, should I wear the classic mourner's getup of all black clothes, or should I just wear nice clothes? Someone also sugested wearing my school uniform, but I'm not too sure about that idea. The funeral is also being held at a Uniting church and I haven't been to church in ages and I'd feel really uncomfortable if I had to pray or kneel or something like that. Help would be greatly appreciated, as I have no clue what to do.

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STAR Answered by smiley_080 on Apr 24, 2008, 06:06PM
72 answers

just go to pray for the girl, and show respect to her parents.
and maybe it also just gives you time to talk to god, and talk to god.
it would be a good idea if you do go.

depressed Answered by hollowtears on Apr 24, 2008, 06:16PM
99 answers

well it would be nice if you went and you could wear something black and then geans or something, but I am sure the family or her friends would apreishiat you comeing
I hope everything turns out alright

I LIKE IT Answered by alittleconfused on Apr 24, 2008, 06:16PM
220 answers

I suggest that you go to the funeral even do you are uncomfortable... You don't have to stay long just give the respects to the parents and dont over react... I think you should wear traditional black , probably most of the people that go are going to be like that so you'll blend in and not stand out... good luck with that..

Shark Atack Answered by funadvice on Apr 24, 2008, 06:23PM
53985 answers

There's only one funeral for each one of us, that is, when we do end in a cemetery. If you don't attend that funeral, you may regret it afterwards, for years and years, for a lifetilme, maybe. Think of your friend who died, think of her friends, relatives, of her parents and brothers/sisters. It's not a ball, it's an au revoir.

Black clothes and a white touch, make it gloves or shirt.

Answered by sweetchild on Apr 24, 2008, 06:33PM

you shouldnt go If you feel uncomfortable its better to remeber them as they were alive.

Answered by emnems34 on Apr 24, 2008, 07:19PM
7 answers

if youre feeling uncomfortable about the funeral, maybe you could just send her family a sympathy card saying how much she will be missed at school and other nice things about her. that would be a way to show respect AND avoid your own personal discomfort.

had a good day Answered by dani92693 on Apr 24, 2008, 08:00PM
102 answers

it would be nice to go. honor her , besides you'd feel guilty later if you didn't go

yeah Answered by pinkroxy1151 on Apr 24, 2008, 09:08PM
107 answers

Awuh thats really sad; 3 of my friends died last school year; one in april; 2
in may; one got hit by a 18wheeler 2 in a car wreck. funerals are really sad but u
wld look back at this day b like I wishi did go

the flames are #1 Answered by overit on Apr 24, 2008, 11:14PM
779 answers

Thats really sad I experienced the same thing with a guy I sat next two in chem class who was murdered when someone struck him in the back of the head at a party.I think it was one of the worst things that has ever happened. It was such a akward experience but honeslty it's good closure to attend his funeral. Do it for her and all the people who need you there

the beatles Answered by iamcool on Apr 25, 2008, 05:31AM
639 answers

Thanks heaps, everyone who answered. I've decided I am going to go.

the beatles Answered by iamcool on Apr 27, 2008, 09:58PM
639 answers

UPDATE: I went to the funeral, and It wasn't a good expearience, (I didn't expect it to be) but you know, I was glad I chose to go. I think it was all the poitive responses I got on this site that convinced me. Thanks, guys.

Best friends Answered by steph_is_utterly_mad on May 02, 2008, 05:52PM
190 answers

The funeral was sad.

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