Should I do something I don't really want to for love?

I desperately need answers for this. And soon, too. I'm a sophomore, and there's this guy I like who's a senior. He's my best friend's brother, so when I sleep over at her house I see him sometimes but I've never spoken to him. Which I'll admit is kinda pathetic, but I'm really shy. So there's this high school trip to Japan called the scholars cup (see more at http://www.scholarscup.org). it's a competition and schools from all over the world participate. its really hard, and we have to study a lot. and it's about $1000 to go. And he's going. I've been thinking of going, but just so that I can maybe start being friends with him. But all the work.. It's about 5 hours extra work per week, in addition to my huge load of homework and tests. But since only about 18 people are going on the trip, maybe we'll get a chance to be friends. Other than him, I am not at all interested in going on the trip. But I really really like him. If both of us do go, there's a chance we still don't be friends anyway. And also, if more than 18 people sign up to go, he might not be accepted as his grades arent that good. So... is it worth it? Should I go, just for his sake?

in my opnion I wouldnt go, if your not intersested in it at all, as you said theres still a chance you wont become friends, next time you sleep at your friends bump in 2 him lol an say o sorry an act all flirty lol, x

My opinion is you should NEVER do something you are not comfortable doing. If you have questions about it, then odds are you shouldn't be doing it, it's called GUILT. If your lover is truly in love with you, he will wait till you are really ready and not feeling guilty about it. Imaginion how much better it will be when you both want to do it!!! If you have to ask this question, you are not ready, don't do it, it's not love, it's pressure.

Dear crazyygal,
I'm going to say yes, only because I think this is a trip of a life time and if things do progress with him that would be a bonus. If you are able to put the work in, get the money I think above all the trip alone...and you may not think so...would be a educational experience you may never get again. Sometimes we do something for one reason and we find out that we have done it for many other reasons. Take the trip.
Sue...good luck

if I were, u , if you really dont care for the program, you shouldn't go. for a couple of reasons:
1) it costa A LOT of money to go
2) if you get excepted and he doesn't and more than 18 people sign up, you are talking the opportunity away form someone who truely wants this spot
3) you can always talk 2 him at yur friend's house, if you need a trip across the world 2 make friends w. a guy that 2 c like every other day, then it's not worth it
4)it's a lot of work 2 load onto u, w. yur other assignments and homework and stuff, not 2 mention the extra hours

in the end, the decision in yours, but I strongly recommend that you DON'T go

I would go cause it would be fun, if you aren't comfortable enough to speak to him now, I doubt you will be in Japan.