Should I be jeolus

I have been going steady with my girlfriend for four months now. My question is should I be jeolus of a comment she made to me that she looks at other guys and feels it's o.k. I feel the opposite and I think it is unhealthy. Also she invites her ex husband to family functions she I not be jeolus of this.

I dont agree with that she should not say that looking at other guys is ok I got mad at my ex everytime he would say that so yeah talk to her about it tell her you should be the only guy shes interested in .as far as the ex husband thing id tell her if that continues something is going to change and shed better hope its with him and not you!!!!! I hope you take my advice

Are you saying you have NEVER looked at another woman? I'd have to call you a liar if you said yes to that! Its perfectly healthy, and very immature on your part to be jealous. You sound like you are still in middle school! Also sounds like you have some insecurity issues.

As for the ex, doesnt sound like shes over him. She has NO business inviting him to any family functions anymore! You need to remind her who shes with, and she should have respect for your feelings. If she insists on keeping him in her life, then you need to give her an ultimatum!

Sounds like she was just trying to be honest by admitting that she can still find another man attractive even though she loves you and wants to be with you.

The thing is these type of conversations just tend to hurt our partner's feelings and I think they aren't worth having because we all know that just because you love someone it doesn't mean you won't find other people attractive. What is important however is that our partner not only makes us feel loved and appreciated but also makes us feel like we are the most attractive person for them and that they respect our needs by not letting their eye wonder whilst with them. It's more a question of respect.

So no, you should not be jealous about an honest comment and you should avoid that type of conversation. There is no respect or love in jealousy. Jealousy is a one way ticket to ruining your relationship. If you feel jealous then you need to adress this issue right away. Look at where your jealousy is stemming from, why are you feeling insecure in this relationship? What can you and your partner do that would respect both of your freedom but make you feel more secure? Do you need to work on your self esteem and self confidence in order to build a better trusting bond together?

As for the ex-husband, I think your jealousy stems from not undersatnding the relationship that they have together and with her family. Why is she inviting her ex-husband to family functions? Is he a good friend? Is she including you also by inviting you too? Have you met him and tried to befriend him in order to feel more secure?

It is possible to be friends even though the relationship is over. Talk about these things and listen to what she has to say. Try understanding them with your heart and not with your fears. Good communication is the key to understanding eachother. Good luck.

It is perfectly healthy and normal to look at people of the opposite sex (or same sex). As long as she is just looking, and not touching where is the harm? Many men look at porn even though they are in loving committed relationships, it does not mean they love their partner any less.
As for the ex husband, talk to her about it. Do they have kids together? If so, she likely invites him for the sake of the kids, or maybe her family still really likes him... there are an endless amount of possiblilies for why she would invite him to family gatherings... As long as they are not going off and having sex together, is she really hurting anyone?