She loves me but she has a boyfriend

Last year I met this girl and I completly fell in love with her.
She has a boyfriend , but she was like everyday visiting me at my house ,because it wasn't going well in her relationship.

Later on she fell also in love with me , we are even having...

sex now but still she wont leave him .
Many times we had arguements and I told her why she doesn't leave him and she answers me: I just can't .

Once she tried to leave him but the next day she went back because he told her that he would work on their relation .
And now he is completely changed (how a boyfriend is supposed to do ) but still she visits me and we are doing are stuff.

The reason why we have arguements is because I'm tired of hiding , I can't do anything with her in public , everytime I have to be in my house with her.

About sex : it's her first boyfriend , so many things she didn't know , I taught her a view and now she is doing things with me , she never even did with her boyfriend .

What must I do ?? should I leave her?? Should I wait ???(I waited too long)
Or should I just go to her boyfriend and tell him that his girlfriend is cheating on him with me??

Help me please , I tired of this

you said your self you have been waiting to long shes probably just in love with being in love. you said that was her first boyfriend so shes new to all of this and it sounds like she likes you more if she is doing things with you instead of him. just talk to her about it and let her know how you feel.

Why make her your priority, when she is only making you her option?

If she truly loved you in the right way, she wouldnt be putting you on the back burner. Sorry, but sex doesnt make a relationship!! Its obvious that she isnt going to leaver her boyfriend, so why are you so desperate to hold on? Shes cheating on her boyfriend, she'll do it to you one day!

Angelfire - You are right , but I keep holding on to her because I love her .
I know it's stupid because she wont leave him .
The only way she'll leave him is when he finds out .

About the cheating : the way I see it , she started to cheat because it wasn't going well between her and her boyfriend .
He wasn't spending time with her and I'm not that type , I like to spend time with my girlfriend .

About that she will cheat on me one day : that depends on me I think .
I know I would take controle of her the moment she becomes my Girlfriend .
And I would watch her carefully ...

Lababoo - Thanks for your reply !!! but I talked so many times with her , but she stays with her decision .
She wont leave him .

You say that she likes me more , but why is it then so difficult to leave him ??? It soo difficult for me to understand because in everything you do more with me , she even accepts and knows that she does more with me but still you won't leave him .
She says she loves us both .

like I said , the only way to let her leave her boyfriend is when he finds out that she is cheating.

Lababoo - Thanks for your reply !!! but I talked so many times with her , but she stays with her decision .
She wont leave him .

You say that she likes me more , but why is it then so difficult to leave him ??? It soo difficult for me to understand because in everything you do more with me , she even accepts and knows that she does more with me but still you won't leave him .
She says she loves us both .

like I said , the only way to let her leave her boyfriend is when he finds out that she is cheating.

Reyke, I've been in your shoes before. Though after two years she was gone from my life. You need to be carefull with how you do things. Its like a chess game think several moves ahead. I'm only a psych student so nothing I say is leget yet lol unless you want to believe me. You have a choice buts its sort of a hit or miss. Tell her you no longer wish to see her. Raise your voice show a lil anger. Be carefull not to do to much though. Just so your resolve. Show her you mean what your about to say. Tell her she has to choose you or him. Tell her how you can be better be angry its ok. Dont go overboard though. It might take some time a few weeks maybe more. But if she really likes you she'll hate the fact she can't see you. Sometimes... Breaking someones heart is the only option. Because when a broken heart heals it becomes stronger. A warning though. Toy with this too much and she'll eventually leave. Right now if this keeps up she'll stay with him and not you. Do something now. Good luck.

Hey Maruku , Thanks a lot LOL , I did this so many times , we don't speak for maybe a week and then she sends you a text message : I miss You and there you go again hahahha
it's so difficult man

what then???

I had exactly the same problem just 3 weeks ago, this is what I done and it worked like a charm, just be careful not too mess it up when you finally get with her:-

Make sure you let her see you with another girl, get the jelousy factor there.
Then fingers crossed she will start texting or phoning you asking about all the gossip
Make sure you have sex with the girl your trying to get with, (not the jelousy girl, on the same day if its possible
Then right after sex say, I cant do this anymore, im hurting too much, im not being treated like an idiot, stop lying to me etc. be angry but not aggressive
Then maybe she will see she will lose you and start begging you to change your mind.

This happened to me and it worked exactly like I said but sadly it only lasted for a week and now im trying to come up with new ways to get her now. But jelousy is the best one in my case. hope this helps mate

I am going throgh this right now she is in love with me but she has a kid and I have every thing but here mind I asked her to marry me and eveything nothing has woked but she still keeps me as her sercet I dont really now what to tell you but I now what it fells like
like when people tell you to leave her but you cant let go cuse you did everything for her and still dose not want to comment to you so hang in there the world tends to unfold it self if it is ment to be it will happen

I have a similar problem as well. she wont mention her boyfriend around me much and if she does she refers to him as her ex. she will tell other people that she is on and off with him, and that they go out. she wont say that around me, I guess its because she likes me and doesn't want to drive me away.

Angelfire2708...you are of course right...I am also in a disturbingly similar situation. However, in my case, I haven't let it get quite so far. We've been together, sure, but I have let her know in no uncertain terms that I want to be with her, and if she has a boyfriend, we can't happen. I don't want to be an option, I want to be a priority. If she can cheat on him, she can cheat on me. Cut her loose and learn to live with a broken heart.

yeah.im presently in dis type of situatn,weve bin 4 like 4months and I've given her all my love.and its like im offern her d world.she claims 2 luv me 2..bt she had a 2yrs relatnshp before we meet.and stil she hasnt broken up wit him.she talks abt a future wit me al d time..but I stil don't fully trust her.because its like she stil has an option..I luv her so much.and il b far 4rm her soon because shes stil in skul.what I intend 2 do is to sit her dwn just b 4 I leave and tel her im ready 2 brake up wit her if she stil wnts 2 av options.she should make her decision.because I also hd options bt I choose her..I may gv her time 2 make her decision.watever decision she takes wil be my fate..

I'm in the same situation as most of you guys. I am seeing this girl who I love and I have told her that, and I do anything and everything for her. She tells me she loves her boyfriend but they have slot of stupid fights like they didn't have enough sex so they almost broke up. WTF. Well when I tell her I love her she says that she just can't control herself around me. I want to make her choose me or him but I'm scared she will pick him. What should I do??!???