Sexual abuse

How do I stop my husband from sexual abusing me at night while I am sleeping? He watches me with a torch and touches my private parts.. I asked him many a times to stop this behavior

if its not too personal...how long has he been doing it for?

After the birth of our 2nd son.. he was blaming me it wasnt his child. but it is.. so it goes on for many a years.. he had always told me I was dreaming or was mad when I confronted him.. but last 2 years after he moved out of bedroom admitted that he does do it. he told me he has a need to do it

I think you should really tell someone who can really help you, this sounds like...really abusive behavior...im only 14 but if I were you, id totally tell someone who could help you[cops, doctors, parents, etc.]

This is serious. No offense but why have you put with this for so long? I would get out as fast as you can. Talk to someone about this; someone you can TRUST to help you figure out the right way to do it without HIM bieng aware. Catch him off guard. Leave him before he hurts you!!! I wish you the very best.

Where you live at I'm not sure what the laws are but in the US that's sexual abuse. Does he want to stop? If he does then maybe get him to try counseling. Have you tried locking your bedroom door...you did say he doesn't sleep in the same bedroom right? Some men take what they need without worrying about the woman's needs and unfortunately with you being married he probably feels like you are his and he can do what he wants with you. Try to get him to go to counseling, other than that unless you go to the authorities or lock your door I doubt you will stop him.

Good luck

kick him in the nuts and run

lady that is some serious serial killer stuff hes doing..get help asap

Thanx for the advice. He doesnt want to go for any kind of counseling. I went and saw the lawyer about this. He told me my husband will not change his behavior untill he gets profesional help.. I am buzy to get a divorce, but so far my husband doesnt want to get divorce. so difficult to get him to settle peasefully.. He just want us to go on with marraige as is.. But I dont want to stay in this marraige,, He threatens to break all furniture, burn down the house if I want to get divorce. I waited so long because my youngest son was still in school last year,, Now there is no reason to stay any longer. He chased me away many a times, but I will rather get divorce and not just leaving him with only a suitcase.

ever try getting a restraining order?

You need to get out. Are there any kinds of women's shelters where you live? They will help you. Make sure when he gets served with the divorce papers that you're not there (or anywhere around). You've been married for a long time and of course he doesn't want to divorce but who cares what he wants? He's been getting his way for years so take your stuff and get out of there. Get a divorce, get some kind of restraining order against him (that way if he comes around you can call the authorities on him).

Good luck

nope, because I knew that will led to more trouble. but I told him once I was at the police station and asked police for advice, so he stopped for a long time.. He is very moody and does this when he is down and depressed.. and he always blames me for his moodiness. Told me if I change, he will not behave badly, So its hard to keep up with his moods

You really have to get out of this situation.

Like colethky said, check in with a woman's shelter and get away from him. Press charges, have a restraining order put in place - there are services out there that will protect you.

Nobody has the right to violate you like this, and you don't owe him anything. It's time you started thinking about yourself, and what would make you happy. He had his chance to be happy, and he blew it. It isn't up to him anymore...you have far more power than you think, but as long as you let him suppress you, you will never learn to stand up for yourself.

Please, get out before he seriously hurts you!

You need to leave - pretty much like everyone else is saying. I actually watched an hour show on this and he can be charged even with rape by doing these things to you. Get out while you can before it gets worse.

We are all trying to help you here honey. PLEASE find a way to get out of the ASAP. He is very unstable and he could snap and follow through with his threats at any moment. For your own safety, just take that one suitcase for now and leave. Oh a restraining order is a good way to go ;cause it he does come near you he would be put in jail.take care of YOU!

Thanx for all your people who gave advice.. I'm positive of bringing this to an end.. Its my life and I will not let him mistreats me any longer.. Me and him had a talk tonight. he still see no wrong doing on his side and still tells me everything will be fine only if I change. I know I have to go for help getting over this. But I dont hate men. I know there are still good men on earth.