How can I fix my sexless relationship?

I've been with my girlfriend for four years now and we've been living together for three of them. When our relationship first started I used to feel like I wouldn't be able to keep up with her sexual pace. I know that every relationship starts off like...

some sort of porn movie, especially when we are young. Admittedly the first two months was slow because I wanted to make sure I wasn't with her just for the sex, so I slowed the pace. By the way, both of us are in our early thirties.

After about a year of being together I noticed that we were having sex about once a week. I thought to myself that it was just a lull in the action and we'd get back to our regular three to four times a week. That never happened. In fact it kept getting less and less until I had to ask what was wrong. She said that she was stressed at work, and she was fighting with a family member she used to be close with and it was a lot for her to handle. I understood that, but it got worse and worse as time has progressed and has not gotten better. We now have sex once every two months and I'm at my wits end. She even tried to turn it around on me, trying to say that I have no sexual interest in her. I just flat out stopped touching her because she didn't seem interested in my advances any more. We went to see a couples councilor, and she brought up the lack of sex in our relationship to my surprise. When we came home, I started things up and managed to have a decent roll in the hay with her. Since then, it's been three and a half weeks and counting!!! I try a lot of kissing, hugging, touching and I just get my hands pushed away and told that I'm a pervert. I've started flirting with women when I go out without her, and in some cases even some mild touching has taken place. It's becoming near impossible not to cheat on her now. The only thing that has saved me is my conscience, because I don't want to be known as a cheater.

My deduction of the situation is that she is just not a sexual person. I feel like I was tricked into our relationship with sex and I'm left holding the package...literally! I really do care for her and would love to be engaged, but I'm too terrified of a sexless marriage. All I need is for her to have sex with me twice a week, even just once a week would still hold my interest. I'll give it a couple more months then I'm calling it quits. I have too many girls approaching me every week to say that I'm wasting the prime of my life not expressing myself sexually.

It's kind of sad that I ridiculed some of my friends for cheating on there women, and I'm now about to do the very same thing. If anyone has some good advice, I'm all ears!

No cheating!!!!!!! no cheating becos you'll feel guilty about it and regret hurting someone you care about. If she has no interest in you sexually and is making no effort even after seeing a counsellor then there isnt much hope, you are trying but she is just not interested and you need and deserve to feel wanted and touched in your relationship. Cheating will get you no where........the best thing in this situation is if things dont start to get better soon then leave......atleast your conscience is free and you can do what ever you want with who ever you want without the guilt. And maybe by her losing you it will knock some sense into her, maybe she just needs to be alone for a while and work herself and her feelings out.