Is sex before marriage a good idea?

IS SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE A GOOD IDEA, IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP?

Some people are assuming that if there is sex before marriage it is always the guy who is persuing the woman. There are women who initiate that first step before the guy does.
I think religiously sex before marriage is a bad idea.God knew what he was doing when he said that because when you save yourself for marriage, you dont have anyone to compare your spouse to and you cant say that you wish they did it like so and so.

But at the same time sex is an important aspect for a lot of married people and if you are not sexually compatable, that could be grounds for a divorce as well.
I think you should waituntil you know for sure it is something that you want to do,not just because your body is telling you to do it.

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It really depends how serious you are. I lost my virginity and im not married and im still with the guy. but the thing is that i promised myself that i wouldnt do it until im married.
if you realy love the guy and your so comfortable with him the yeah. but as long as you use protection.

Dear theagu,
It can depend a lot on religious beliefs. If this isn't a concern then yes it is a good idea to live with a person before marriage. We never truly know someone till we live with them. Sex is a huge part of a relationship as is communication. Today there is a 50% divorce rate; one of the reason is that they married too soon without knowing their partner enough.
Sue...good luck

Sex before marriage is the best idea, because if you do not know your future husband's sexual character, even you do not know your own sexual character, you may have got very big disappointments.

Not ususally. It's not a good way to base a long term relationship. It takes away the special-ness of marital relations. Couples who live together before marriage are 2 or 3 times more likely to get divorced.

If a guy has sex with a woman before marriage, she loses some respect for him, because he just showed her that he doesn't respect and honor her enough to consider her a treasure worth waiting for.

By having sex with her before marriage, you just told her that she's not worth waiting for. Bad idea

If a guy has sex with a woman before marriage, she loses some respect for him, because he just showed her that he doesn't respect and honor her enough to consider her a treasure worth waiting for.

Not necessarily. Although unless they're already engaged, he's not likely to marry her.

There is a practical reason for waiting. All too often, premarital sex ends up a self-seeking, self-gratifying experience. After intercourse, one partner might be saying I love you while the other is thinking I love it.

None of the arguments for premarital sex are strong enough. Of course, it's always easy to rationalize in the heat of passion and say it's right. But that is why it is important to decide beforehand--to think with your brain instead of your glands.

Here a some arguments I dug up
*The Statistical Argument: Everyone else is doing it. Oh, no, they're not! Some studies have shown high statistics, but never one that says 100%. Besides, even if everyone else were doing it, that is a lousy reason for doing anything. The point is that just because everyone else is doing it doesn't make it advisable or right. You need a better reason.

*The Biological Argument: Sex is a biological need, like the drive for food, air and water. When I have the impulse, it needs to be satisfied. You can't live without food, air or water. Believe it or not, you can live without sex. (It's been documented.)

*The Hedonistic Argument: But it feels so good when I do it--and afterward, too! The question is, How long after? What feels good for a few seconds may leave you feeling miserable for years. Self-fulfillment is hard to come by without self-respect. Also, don't forget the other person. Sometimes one partner's pleasure is another partner's misery. How would you like being used as nothing more than someone else's pleasure machine?

*The Experiential Argument: Practice makes perfect and I do want to please my partner when I do marry. As previously mentioned, communication and commitment--not just technique--are keys to dynamic sex. Why not learn with your own spouse--together--instead of on someone else's wife or sister or husband or brother? Remember, too, that good sexual adjustment takes time, love and understanding.

The Compatibility Argument: We need to experiment to see if we're sexually compatible, especially since marriage is such a big step. Some express it like this: You try on a pair of shoes before you buy them! The try-before-you-buy idea breaks down because the human plumbing system is very flexible and almost always works. Again, premarital sex can erode trust and communication. It's wiser to test your compatibility as persons. Even happily married couples often need several years to adjust sexually to each other.

Besides, sex can cloud the issue. Sex is not the key to love. Love is the key to sex. Couples who approach marriage thinking that We're in love so it's OK to have sex or We'll use sex to determine if we're in love may be sorely disappointed. They may discover that what they thought was love is only charged-up sex sensations. Waiting until marriage does not guarantee that you'll be emotionally compatible, but it does help create a less confusing environment in which to find out before you take the step of a marriage commitment.

The Marital Argument: If we're really in love and plan to get married, why all the fuss over the license and date? Plans don't always end up in reality. (Chances are you know someone--perhaps yourself--who suffered a broken engagement.) Of course a wedding is no guarantee one won't leave in the future, but it can be a preventive.

Waiting until marriage can help you both have the confidence, security, trust and self-respect that a solid relationship needs. Human lives have three dimensions: Physical, mental and spiritual. If communication on any of these levels in a marriage is missing, the relationship is incomplete.

While taking social psychology is college we leaned that the most studies were flawed due to not following through on long term studies, they did not take age and profession into account and several other variables were over looked. Today there is evidence that co-habits are not in a higher group for divorce but keep par with those who marry first.

Dorian Solot, co-author of Unmarried to Each Other: The Essential Guide to Living Together as an Unmarried Couple, doesn't buy it. Her extensive research with couples indicates that live-ins aren't more likely to lose out. As long as they take the time to really get to know each other and get on the same page when it comes to long-term goals, they've got as good a chance as a couple who hasn't lived together, she says.

Sue

No, it is not a good idea. Numerous studies have proved that the divorce rate is much lower for those who wait until they are married to have sex. Also, no matter how strongly you feel for your current partner, your future spouse is the person that you will spend the rest of your life with. Even if you think you will marry this person, you'll feel so good on your wedding night knowing that you both had the strength and love to wait instead of succumbing to sexual wims.

NO! I believe to stay pure before marriage

NO! i believe to stay pure before marriage

some times sex messez up the close relationships but
if the person your with can understand
you and you luv her than sex should not be a worry before marrage
what your doin is bringin that person closer 2 u
or mayb the relationship might grow apart

I agree with the statement if a guy really treasures you he will wait to marry you before he opens your box.