Seven year itch

I would like to know why my wife was talking to a guy I new that lived across the street from me and who is also married now what I dont understand is that me and my have been fine up until I found out that they wher taliking for 7 months on the phone she say's it was just conversasion and that they where just friends and I said if you guys were just friends how come me and his wife didn't know? what bothers me is that I trusted her, I didn't hound her about where she goes or keep her from doing things or try to keep tabs on her the only reason I found out they were talkin was by accident I happin to be going through my cell phone account to find a # so I tried to log in to the account but was unable to do so cause she had changed the password so I asked her about it and she said just call sprint they'll give it to you she wouldnt tell me so I got suspicous. But she is sorry but it's not the sorry baby I no I hurt you what can I due to make the pain go away but the I'm sorry but I was just talkin and I didn't want anything from him but I'm getting the impression that if I wouldnt have caught her she wouldn't have stopped talkin and right now she nose I don't trust her and im trying but she's still acts so secretive like you don't trust me oh well whats that all about please help me. I know if the shoe was on the other foot she'd be devesated my e-mail address is Fun mail me

wow thats devesating I dont know what to say about the situation. I know that it wouldnt be enough to think about an divorce. You really caught her doing secretive mess. I know a marriage shouldnt contain any secretive info of each other. if you have faith in god, he is your best therapiest. thats if your not an atheist. go to him and pray about the situatiton

You and your wifes communication level is too low first of all. And secondly you are right a man shouldn't tell a woman what to do. But all women are different and your wife is like me she not looking for a man that will tell her to shut up and sit down but that's what she needs or else she'll take advantage of you. In my oppion you alls marriage is over because once she's done it once and got caught nothing happened. She's not going to stop eventually her and the other man might even get togeather. I STRONGLY reccomend lots of prayer and mandatory marriage counseling. This is really upsetting to me and I wish you the best of luck.