Self harming

Today in school my best friend lifted her sleeve obviously forgetting what was underneath because when I looked I saw loads of slits going across her wrist. I wispered to her quietly asking her what she had done and she just shook her head at me, pulled...

down her sleeve and carried on talking to the person the other side of her. I know why shes doing it. A family member of hers had a heart-attack a few nights ago. When she told me I was there for her but she doesnt want anyone else to know. A couple of the other girls noticed today but didnt say anything to her but came and asked me what was wrong with her instead. I said nothing and walked away. I dont know how to handle this situation. Im so scared and I care about her so much. What to do I do?

You need to tell her parents or competent adult - she needs help and support to find other ways to cope - The number of young people who participate in acts of self-mutilation is growing. Although self-harm is rarely a suicidal act, it must be taken seriously because accidental deaths do occur - here's a helpful site: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_injury.htm

I wish you both the very best !!

tell a guidance counsler imediately

I think you should try to talk to her about it first, if she gets really defensive about it with you then maybe you should try talking to her parents, but if she's willing to confide in you and allow you to help her through it then thats the best way.

I'd get with her counselor.
If you feel that she can allow you to talk to her about this then, that's the best way to go. But, if she won't share her problems with you, then you'll have to talk to her parents and see what they can do about this problem.
I would also like to give you a site, it's befriender.org. They can help with self harm and suicide.
I wish you two the best of luck.

Sometimes it isnt that bad.
It brings you back to reality.
I use to cut my self , I still do eventually. Im fascinated with it, but thats besides the point.

I dont know how to explain it, because I dont really think it releases endorphins when you cut your self but it does temporarily make you feel better

The upper arm, unless its like really deep I dont think a lot can come from it.
And itll be hidden, so once again, problems with visible scars wont be an issue at least :/

I would confront her about it, it pisses me off when people have to confront other people about something I do or my problem, I would much rather someone talk to me face to face then through someone else.

But I dont know your friend, in the end its your call

I recommend just telling her how you feel about it. If she gets mad at you then talk to yours or her mom about it, but dont hesitate there is no time to waste!

 
Have her check out the two links below:
 
 
Information on self injury:

http ://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_injury.htm

 
Do you WANT to stop cutting? Then check out this site:

http ://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/Self_Injury/BloodRed/stop/index.html

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yu should like call a suicide hotlinee!, that is really bad, she could end up trying to commit suicide if things get worse, but yu should try calling her mom, or telling an adult at school