Self esteem issues

I've been having some self esteem issues of late. My ex girlfriend and I are still pretty good friends, and now she says she's lost weight and she said she didn't feel like she had to lose any while we dated, which made me think she wasn't giving it her all when we dated.

Now during the summer, I talked to this extremely pretty girl who I wanted to hang out with. We met once and now she's not communicating so I probably screwed up somewhere when we did communicate.

So now I'm not feeling too good about myself. I'm skinny, and I don't like the way I look. I've got acne problems and I just hate how I've screwed my life recently..

Any tips?

If you have problems with the way you look, you can change that to a certain degree. Don't expect to change overnight. Changes in your own life and personality take some time to kick in. Acne is a bi@#%, I know, I've had it very bad for a period of 4 years. There is no miracle cure for that, sorry. I know adds tell you otherwise... Deal with it day by day. Watch your nutrition, go to a specialist they might have some helpfull tips.

One girl does not represent all of them remember that too. If one girl may not want to be with you, there is bound to be another who will. People are different in general.

Hope this helps a bit.

I think when she said she didn't feel like she needed to lose weight when you were together, that she just ment that she was comfortable around you!!! that is a really important quality!!! I'm suffering low self esteem and depression so if you want to chat feel free!!! xox best luck

maybe she was giving it her 'all' as you put it, but she finds weight loss easier now. I have a partner, and he can eat a house, the garage a stable and the horse inside it and not gain a pound, me, I look at that house, and I put on the weight!!

the point is, when you're in a relationship, it's very hard to see someone eating stuff that you feel deprived of, so now she hasn't got that influence, maybe it's easier for her. or maybe you used to give her confidence, and now, not having a partner, she feels she needs to do this...or maybe she just wanted to loose weight, and as I said, she finds it easier now (I'm sure if she ever complained of feeling 'fat' when you two were together, you would have disagreed with that!)

in addition to you being 'skinny'...you can do things to improve your physique...everyone can! (myself included!) you are obviously one of those people who are 'naturally' skinny (don't get me started on the unfairness of that!!!), and when you're naturally skinny, it can be just as frustrating as someone who struggles to loose weight. however, you can build up muscle tone, your abilty to not gain weight will not be affected by your muscle weight...

if you're serious about 'bigging up'!! (as such!) then go to your local gym, speak to one of the gym guys there. there are lots of different kinds of gyms, I personally would go to one where the focus is on fitness rather than body building, although you want to body build, seeing all those men the size of brick houses won't help you at the moment, you'll probably just shrug it off as a 'bad idea'...but make an appointment, go down and expalin that you want to build your body up...normally, their very helpful...

as for your skin, well, you can get medications from the doctor to help with that. however, its just your body developing and its simply part of it. my little bro suffered with bad skin, but it's really cleared up now. you can get lotions to cleanse the skin and remove the bacteria which can make spots worse, but stressing is probably one of the worst things. just relax, I realise and truely appreciate that you hate it and feel self-concious about it, but it wil pass.

and as for this girl in the summer, you know, you will meet sooo many people in your life, some you will like, some you will love and some you will hate, that's life, we can't all get on. and you will meet people who you like, that don't like you, it's just a chemistry thing, you have friends that you 'get on with' automatically, and no effort it needed...then you have friends whose relationships don't develop so naturally...
the important thing is not to take things personally...

my attitude is,I am me, I am the same person with everyone, if they don't like me, it's tough, I'm not changing for everyone. I know I'm kind, caring and a totally excellent friend. I'll tell someone if you look poop and I'll tell them when they look great...sometimes I don't like someone, I don't know why, they haven't offended me, it's just their not 'my type' just remember, we are not everyones type, and if we are, then we're not being ourselves, because' no one gets on with everyone, unless they change themselves to suit the people they're with..

I dont think this is about your self esteem, I think its more your ego getting hurt, because you keep making the wrong decisions. You kept pursuing her even when she wasnt answering your calls/texts. You have to listen to all the signs, otherwise you are going to keep setting yourself up for disappointment your whole life.

**Now during the summer, I talked to this extremely pretty girl who I wanted to hang out with. We met once and now she's not communicating so I probably screwed up somewhere when we did communicate**>> She finally met with you, and now she isnt communicating with you. Its not anything you did. She just isnt attracted to you. Not everyone you like is going to feel the same way back. You just have to stop trying so hard. Hang out with that great group of guy friends you have, and stop trying to find a girlfriend. That isnt something that you have control over anyway, so just let fate work its magic.