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Should I worry that he sends secretive texts?

Me Asked by eudaimonia about 1 year ago, 4 answers.
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Okay, so I’ve been dating this guy for a couple of months now. We were really good friends for over a year before we started dating. Things are great between us. We don’t argue and we have so much in common. We have so much fun together, even if we’re doing nothing at all. Today he got a text message and turned his phone so that I couldn’t see the screen when he was replying. I don’t know what the messages said. Since then, I started acting quiet, and he asked me what was wrong. I told him that he seemed like he was being secretive about his text messages, and 2 of my exes used to do that. He replied with “well, I’m not them.” So, should I be worried about him being like that with his texts? Thank you.

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Grandpapa Answered by llewellyn on Jul 04, 2007, 10:01PM
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Some people are just like that, angel. Just because you're not like that, that doesn't mean the people who are are up to something. Maybe he is, I don't know. I can't read minds. I am just saying turning away for a text message once wouldn't set off a red light for me because I am the same way. I leave the room to order pizza even when it is quiet. I just prefer talking in private, even if it is only the pizza guy. It's just a preference.

If you would be uneasy if your boyfriend was talking to someone and you could not see the conversation, I would say that might be a sign of a weak relationship. I think people should be able to have conversations with friends and family without their partner feeling the need to lean over their shoulder to hear/read every word. My partner and I chat on instant messengers, but we both trust each other and are comfortable with our relationship, so neither of us feels funny or suspicious when it comes to what the other is talking about.

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Grandpapa Answered by llewellyn on Jul 04, 2007, 06:42PM
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I wouldn't. Just because you two are together does not mean you have to share every single thing and read all of each other's text messages. I can't blame the guy one bit for wanting a little privacy. It does not mean he is sneaking around. Sometimes a little privacy is just nice, even if you have nothing to hide. I even go into a room by myself if I call to order a pizza or if my parents call me.

Answered by angelfire2708 on Jul 04, 2007, 09:18PM
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I have to disagree on what llewllyn said..I think I would feel alittle uneasy if my boyfriend did that.
I dont think that you would really need to leave the room to order pizza unless it was too noisy, and you would probably want to talk to a parent in private, but when he has to turn his phone away so his girlfriend doesnt see..then thats making him look suspicious in my eyes!
I wouldnt get too upset, or worried though, unless its happening a lot!

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Me Answered by eudaimonia on Jul 05, 2007, 05:54PM
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So, I thought about it, and I have rationalized it in my head. I get certain texts that I wouldn't want him to see, but I am not sneaking around..so I realized that I would have done the same thing, and I think I may actually have done that before!! So, I do trust him..I mean when we're not working we were always together and he does the sweetest things for me. He also told me last night that no girl has ever been as good to him as I am. Thank you for your advice! :-D

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