Second thoughts about living w/ the bff.. ??

when me and my bff decided we'd get our first apartment together next year, I had no problem. but lately we've been hanging out a lot and I've noticed a couple of her habits that I dn't think I'd be able to handle if I'm living under the same roof with...

her. like she gets irritated easily and she's NEVER liked me having other female friends..but I have them ;; and I don't know if I want DRAMA everytime I go out with someone OTHER than her !! I don't wanna regret such a huge thing as moving in with someone, since it'll be my first time. I want it to be RIGHT. how should I let her know I'm having second thoughts ?? that'll be a tough one for the drama-jessica. :/

I would never, EVER, EVER, move in with somebody who was a friend unless the only other option was living under a bridge. It WILL ruin your friendship. Think: if you fight now, what do you do? You most likely leave. Right? So if you're living together, what do you plan to do? Lock yourself in your room? That'll suck after a few minutes; as soon as you come to the conclusion that you're paying HALF the rent, you get HALF of the apartment to use, not just your room. Also, if she changes her mind a few months in and moves out, guess who is going to be stuck paying for the other half... not Santa Clause, honey. YOU.
Can you put up with her constantly eating your food that you bought? Because she will. She'll also leave her things all over the place, because it's half her apartment. She'll be jealous of the people you bring over, and will, at some point, want total silence when you want to make noise.

The only people who should live together are those people who are in a committed relationship (married) because then there is the LEGAL obligation to stay put in the house as well as the PRACTICAL one.

I have seen more friendships (and, boyfriend/girlfriend) shattered beyond any hope of reconciliation due to moving in together. It sounds to me like you already know this will be a bad idea. I'd cancel now before you sign a financial contract- it'll be better now for the both of you.

GIRL..U CONFIRMED MY DOUBTS AND EVEN MORE..with the other free hypotheticals you threw in juss for me :D

you know what..I KNOW it's not a good idea. I gotta call it quits pronto. :/

thanks so much hunn !!

You're welcome- It's better to pi$$ her off now, and save the friendship than to wind up despising each other. The hurt will heal- just tell her you're saving for your future by staying with your parents for a few more years because you want to save up a down payment on a mortgage instead of paying to live in a property somebody else owns. (you can't fight logic, and she'll have a harder time being offended by it)

that's soo true. like I'm going to school next fall..and we were gonna get the apartment in spring. so that means I would be juggling paying rent [which is NOT cheap in Virginia] AND trying to survive in school !! it wouldn't have worked. thx again for u.r advice, now I KNOW what I gotta do.

well I coulda tried to help but sounds like the problem is solved. congrats,