Why am I so afraid to have sex?

so yeah im 16 and im still a virgin... theres this guy (and no hes not some random guy... and he is THE GUY) that knows I want to have sex with him but only when im ready. I dont know why im so afraid to do it... but why? can someone please help me?! I dont know what to do... im so lost...?

If you're unsure of having sex then don't do it. It's something we all go through. Better to stay a virgin than do something your going to regret for a long time

Is he just 'this guy' or is he your boyfriend that you love and trust? So many girls I know have had horrible experiences with guys they didn't have a strong bond with and they've all said they wished they waited for someone else.

I waited for my first love and seeing as it was quite a new, emotional, and somewhat painful experience for me, I'm glad it was with him, because with anyone else it would have been a completely different experience, and they might not have been as patient, cautious, or understanding as he was. He really, truly cared about me, and it made it so much better and easier and I felt safer, especially since I knew he wasn't going to ditch me the next day.

Trust is a huge part of sex, and if he is just 'this guy', I'd wait until you know for sure that he could at least be 'THE guy'. Don't be afraid of waiting, either. I was much older than you when I first had sex, and my friends were proud of me, even! If your boyfriend loves you, he'll understand and wait until you're ready. If he gets frustrated and dumps you, then you know he didn't really care about you at all.

Be careful with your virginity and who you choose to give it to. It's not something you can get back for someone you really love in the future.

Good luck, sweetie!

wow. I stated that wrong in my question he is THE GUY... hes waited for over 2 years... and I know he is the one... I know sex isnt a big deal... and you should wait until your sure of everything... im absolutely sure I want to have sex with this guy...

dont just have sex with some random guy. have it with someone you love. maybe go out with this guy and then after you love each other very much then have sex but not now especially if your not ready...trust me.

ok.. look sugar bunny.. if your afraid to have sexx... then just dont do it, most likely.. you'll know when your ready to.. and you shouldnt be doing that at this age anyhow.. your like 10.. SLOW DOWN.

you have a long way to go soo just wait.. dont ever rush to have sex. because when you lost it. you lost it. it isnt something you can get back. also sex isnt that great after while. it gets boring. so if you want your relationship to last then dont rush into sex. good luck

atlprincess I said im 16... not 10... and yes I know that sex isnt something to rush into... but im sure im ready I just donno why im scared to do it...

''it because you are going against your will'' there are different types of sex,so better find a solution soon. like,is you want sex and not your boyfriend? or is your boyfriend want sex? inform me,then I will have answer to you,,

I think its normak to feel this way! with all the std out here you outta be afraid! because some of these std can kill you and stop you from somethings! not trying to scare you but just keeping it real! anytime you want to chat just hit me ok!