Samantha and rabecca

I've been really upset about my bestfriend cutting herself so I did what any friend would do. I took took her to a pyciatrist. I told her to come with me to go
somewhere but I didn't tell her Whare I was taking her. We Where walking throught the ally next to the local pyciatrist place. And when she saw the sine on the side of the building she freaked out. "What are we doing here?" She screamed at me.
"Becca you need help your hurting yourslef." I said.
"Why do you give a sh*t?"
"Becuse I'm your friend. you need help and I'm going to help you get some."
"I don't need help!"
"yes you do. If somethings wrong emotionaly These people can help you."
"Don't use that senceabul bulshit on me."
"Somethings oviousely wrong you need to talk to me or these people"
"No I don't I'm 17 years old I can handel my own problems."
"Becca your a total mess your grades are dropping youve lost focuse in class." "jeasus f**k'in christ you sound like my mom."
"Well someone needs to."
"F**k you! how dare you take me here. yes something is wrong but that doesn't mean I wan't to talk to you about it!"
Becca ran off after that I've tried to call her but she won't anser. I really need help on how to help her and who to take her to please help someone.

I see. Tough one. If some people refused my help, I would let them go. Why try so hard for somebody that is not ready for the change, doesn't appreciate my act and so on. If you give such a darn about it though you should speak to her parents. I can't believe they haven't noticed something wrong already. If it doesn't help, you have to persuade her. Try by pissing her off about it and she will tell you more. I see she has such a temper. Tell her that she's just a stupid b*tch that cuts herself every time she feels guilty because she cannot handle it otherwise. Call her weak and so on.(Try to find out guilty about what, because this is some way of selfpunishing - I am a psychologyst, amont other things...Btw, this is NOT and official method :P)Family problems, sexual abuse or some crucial bad event that has happened to her and marked her (in childhood generally) can lead to this. Resistance is natural and you have to be cunning in order to break it. So first find out what it is and then...we shall see. Take care, bye!

That’s a really tuff one. Okay the most important thing to remember is that you’re a dear friend to this girl and by this you must play the supportive roll. Don’t say anything negative to her “bad marks at school, cutting her self, swearing etc.” her mom obviously says enough negative things to her. If you also confront her on negative things you will push her away from you, something that already happened. This girl definitely needs help from professionals. And she told you she doesn’t want help so nothing you say will convince her otherwise. You will now have to use a strategy of convincing her. But at the end she must agree that she need help and, that what she is doing to her self is wrong.

Good luck with your “quest”

sorry to tell you this but taking someone in this situation to see a counceller or anything similar will do NOTHING.
it puts more pressure on the person, makes them feel more alone.
it makes them feel like theyre being singled out for being different and they feel more misunderstood.
I know youre only trying to help but you need to talk to her about it if shes open too it.
otherwise just tell her youre always there for her, that she can call you anytime, talk to you when she feels down
someone in this situation often just needs a close friend to talk to!
sorry if that sounded kinda harsh, only trying to help