Why am I getting feelings for someone else?

if you have been with someone for a very long time and you start to have feeling for another man is it because your relationship is getting doll?

No not really, maybe you see some of the things that your boyfriend is lacking in the other guy , but don't be fooled because the grass is not always greener on the other side.

Looking for some change or variation is normal even in the sexual/love life. However some people deny this statement very agressively )

Dear bambielynn,
Normal relationships experience ups and downs. During the down times we look at our situations...lots of stress, over worked, or tired of the same old routine. This is when we take our vows seriously and do what we can to get through the worst of time by taking responsibility to improve things. This can be done in many ways...with counselling, change of pace with your work schedules and change of scenery with holidays or just getting some books from the library or store on how to spice up your sex life. The only way you can have more than lustful feelings for another man is if you are spending a lot of personal time with him. That is why it takes mature people to handle relationships at work when people spend a lot of time together.
Sue...good luck