Relationship vs. single

In order to ask you my question I have to give you a little background information first...

I just recently turned 19. I had my first boyfriend when I was in 9th grade and it started out great but went kinda bad and didnt work out. We were together for a year. Shortly after that I started going out with my boyfriend now and we have been together for just about two years. Things between me and him are so amazing, he's pretty much everything I could ask for in a guy. We have so much in common, we never fight or argue, and we pretty much see eye to eye on everything or at least respect each others views on things. Our sex life has been going well, I have no complaints there either. Sometimes however, even though he wont admit it, I think my boyfriend has little issues of jealousy. Is it ok for me to hang out with other guys? If I do he gets really weird about it...he'd never tell me I couldnt do anything, he's not controllign like that, but he'll just be really weird and almost kinda cold-shoulder me type of thing. Thats just one question...

Another thing is that we tell each other we love each other and how much we want to be with one another and I mean everything I say...but I also think about the fact that we're only 19. I dont think we're moving too fast because we'd never talk about like marriage or kids or anything lol but mb too fast in the sense that we're in this long relationship at 19. He tells me he is perfectly content with me and could be with me always...I love him so much but I just kind of wish our relationship could have come at a later time. I' feel like I've been in a relationship my entire life (of dating) and never really had the time or opportunity to be single. I'm not a slutty girl so its not that I want to go and make out with every boy I seee but being able to hang out with guys or have the option to do something is kind of appealing to me. Me and my boyfriend dont like the idea of a break because thats unfair to the other person, however, I don't know if I could break up with him I love him too much. I like to think that if we were really meant for each otehr and we broke up we'd get back together but thats too scary to test out lol. I wouldnt want to ruin a good thing. However, I dont' want to miss out on being 19 and being single. Going to parties. Meeting people. Hanging out with guys. Flirting. I hope you understand my confusion and can offer me some advice, thank you.

I understand you perfectly and think that you do not have any other choice than convincing your b/f about that he (or you two) does not live the life of the 19 year olds. At this age you two have to give yourself more freedom than gave till this time. Later you will have time enough to sit nex to each other. I think, but I am not sure, your b/f is a lazy type male who hardly moves out from his silent life. But you want to socialize around a little, and you are absolutely right.

Dear shortnsweet9,
You are not ready for a committed relationship. During our life time we will find several people who we love and think about spending our lives with. You know you are not ready yet by wanting to spend time with other males, wanting to party and just having the feeling you arn't ready yet. Giving up a relationship that you think may be the one can be difficult but you are both too young to make that decision. The fact is you are not being fair to your boyfriend by seeing other males. He has the right to be a little jealous over this and if you have no concerns about his female friends than that is just another cue that you aren't ready to settle with him. So do yourself and your boyfriend an favour by ending the relationship before you part as enemies. Enjoy dating, going to parties, flurting and seeing other males while you are young and not committed to one person. There will be plenty of time for that later. Who knows you may meet up with him again when you are both older and ready to settle.
Sue...good luck

Yes I understand...you need to communicate these feelings to each other...you will need to tell him first how much you care and how special he is. Then ask him...have you ever wished we had met each other when we were a little older? He will prob say...I don't know and you say I keep hearing others say its best for people to have many experiences in life and to know others before they really know they are making the right choices...and then ask...what do you think? Tell him... I guess they look at it like this...when you see other people it just confirms that what you do have is very special and that the grass is not always greener on the other side......then ask...do think the reason some people split up after they get married is because they havn't experienced the other side of the fence...so they have a need to do so and then they screw up the relationship that means the most? Say....I just wonder and then I think it almost sounds like the path we are in...don't you think? Is this whats going to happen...do you think we should take a break to make sure we are confiedent? Say...I don't like the idea but it might make things stronger for both of us...what do you think?

OKAY,I it may seem kinda weird but he really like's you and want's you to him self. I meanhow would you feel if he hang'd out with other girl's????????tell the truth PISSED that would be ignoring you like one's not good enough just give MUCH MORE timewith you and tell him that those guy's are not for me you are. good luck!

the single life is something you got to experience....you have the rest of your life to worry about relationships and stuff but since your teen years are almost gone, you've got your 20's to live it up...tell your boyfriend you love him soo much and blablabla but tell him that in order to make the next step in your relationship you want to have the opportunity to see what else is out there and after a certain period of time if we come to the conclusion that we both still love eachother then your relationship will be even stronger...that and you got to live it up being single for a while....but I'm a big fan of "breaks" in relationships because if you can pick it back up then its a strong relationship...if not then it wasn't meant to be