Am I being too nice?

Hi everyone. I need relationship help. I feel like I'm being too nice and like.. Getting the short end of the straw. when my girlfriend and I get into a fight, I am almost always the one to initiate the apology phase. 99% of the time I say sorry just because I don't want the fight to continue. the problem is.. I have a problem with doing this too much. because I feel like I am. my girlfriend sometimes does things to me where if I did it to her, she would never let me get away with it without a sorry. she sometimes holds grudges also. the only thing I want, is to know that she cares enough about when I'm mad at sometime, to come forth and humble herself to give me a sincere sorry. its not like I'm crazed for sorry's. it's just I feel like I'm spending all my time trying to keep her happy when I feel like I should be receiving some of that from her as well.

For example:

She came over today to borrow a duffel bag for her sister. during which I asked her to bring over a check that I had forgot at her house when I hung out with her the day before. she comes and leaves with the bag but I forget to ask her for the check. so I call her to ask her about it, and she asks me to come to the end of my block. I'm in nothing but pj pants so I ask her to just come to my driveway because its only another 100 ft or so. at this point she is mad that someone almost hit her and she had to use gas to come back to my house. when she comes she doesn't get out of the car. so I take the check and I lean into the car to give her a kiss and say thank you because I know she's already frustrated. during this she starts rolling the window up. it didn't go up much but she stopped and started again while my head was still in her car. later, she asks if I'm mad. I say yes. she asks why and I tell her. her answer was "whatever." she calls me, and tells me she got in trouble with her mom and we argue about the event. I told her that I appreciated her bringing the check back but the window thing was disrespectful. she says "wow" like I'm being unreasonable, when all I want is an apology. then she says "ill talk to you tomorrow" because there was a moment of silence where I was waiting for her response. I usually say no because, naturally I'm the one that always keeps her on the phone to make her feel better, whether I'm the one that's mad or not. so this time, I said ok and we both said bye and we hung up. she said she wanted to go so why should I keep her from it when I'm the one waiting for an apology? right?

I don't know. I don't want to lose her, but I hate feeling like this. please give me advice.

dude first of all if that girl cannot even apoligize she is a loser and you can do so much better than that she is wrong to treat you like that

true that she needa learn how to apologize tell you is botherin you how she disrespectin u & if she continues tell her your relationship wit her wont work out if she acts like she dont care

well I think she seriously needs how to apologize for her own actions. Like me and my fiance' have sum problems but we both take responsibility for our actions..thatz what makes us as close as we are. If she ever wants to work with you, she is going to have to get over herself and learn to haave respect for her boyfriend. If she cant do that then she isnt a very good girlfriend and you should kick her to the curb..I admit tho give her sum time because it sumtmes takes a little while to learn that traiit...If your really slow.

It's a horrible realisation in a man's life when he suddenly sees that girls can just be as stubborn as their own. Coming from my point of view (female who loves getting her own way), because you have always smiled, knodded your head and said "yes dear, sorry dear, no dear" you have become the unfortunate door mat in the relationship. She knows she can get away with being right or wrong because you will always say sorry. In a sense, it's your fault you should of stood up for yourself in some of the first incidents. However, this being said, it's lovely that you would rather spend your life happy than spend it right- something my boyfriend hasn't learnt yet. If you have a good relationship, you should be able to communicate the way you feel and she should be mature enough and love you enough to step back and go "ohhh I have been doing that." She really should say sorry a bit more in your relationship and perhaps she doesn't realise because you've spoilt her throughout your courtship.

I hope this helps. All the best.