Relationship question

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and we just don't talk about certain things. He says he has no kids, and I believe him. He has also been divorced for over 5 years. We met the year his divorce was final. I ahve never asked him any questions about his past marriage, or about his income from work. I figure if he wants me to know, he will tell me. In january we bought as new truck and in the last 2 weeks, we bought a travel trailer. He has been away for the week on business and I was going through the paperwork that the RV place sent home with us, and I found a W-2 and his last check stub. He is claiming he is married and has 6 dependents. He also has over half his check deposited in another checking account which I know nothing about. I am sure that he is using the married status for tax purposes, but he is paying for insurance for his ex-wife and 3 kids. I am sure that they are not his, but he could have adopted them. My question is, should I confront him about what I have found out, or should I just let sleeping dogs lie? Could he be paying alimony after this long? I am sure that his divorce was final in 1999 or 2000? He makes over 80k a year and there is almost 19k 2 times a month going into another checking account, not the one we share. HELP!!!!! I really want to spend the rest of my life with him and want to talk to him about marriage, but do not know what to do about this latest find.

If you have been with him for 5 years, and are thinking of marrying him some day, you definitely need to know what he's been up to. 5 years is a good deal of time, I would think you two would know eachother extremely well. For this reason, a secret like this that is so big should be discussed, I would bring it up in the most unaccusing, unassuming, gentle way possible. You deserve to know what's going on, you can't spend the rest of your life with someone who you know is hiding something from you. You should talk about it and find out what's going on.

Yes, 5 years is serious and you should know certain things like that. Just tell him the truth, (well half truth) tell him you were going through the RV paper work and found his W-2, bring up the dependents he is claiming but don't bring up the other checking account unless he asks you if you know. I mean, sometimes to work in a woman's favor its good for the woman to know more about her man than he realizes. That way you can keep an I on him. Not that I'm telling you to play detective, but see where this goes....maybe its his retirement. Anyway, so you guys don't file at the same time? so you don't know what he is claiming to the IRS? Because I know people who, on there W-2 claim more dependents than they have so they can get back more per check, then when its time to file put the correct number of dependents. But to file married and you're not???? Either he's still married or he's a crook. Just bring it up when you feel the time is right, and use your best judgement. Prepare for anything because you have uncovered something that it seems he wanted hidden.