Relationship dilema

Hi all. I am new to this site and am in need of some serious help. I am 29 years old and have been in a relationship with an awesome woman for the past 3 months!! Well, I am also currently legally separated. I am going through a divorce with someone...

I was married to for 3 years. In that time, I was emotionally beat down. Because of that, I am unusually clinging to this woman that I am with now. She knows how much I love her, but I can't seem to back off. She sees that I am trying, and she's unbeliveably patient. To make matters worse, I have a nose blowing fetish. Yep, that's right, I like it when women blow their nose. Well, I told her about this. She was okay with it, until I started getting too pushy with it. Now, she won't even blow her nose in front of me because she says that it makes her self-conscious. I do a lot of things for her and love doing them. I spoil her. I bring her flowers, write her little notes, run a hot bath for her so she can have it ready when she gets home from work, etc. I am a hopeless romantic, so to speak. I definitely DON'T want to lose her, but I can feel my grasp slipping away. I don't want to push her away. PLEASE HELP!!! I have a great angel...a gift from God...and I don't want to lose her!!

Sincerely,
Hopes that help is out there

I think the things that you do for her are really sweet, but the fetish thing is a little uhm, different to say the least. if the man I love asked to watch me blow my nose infront of him for his own fetish needs, I wouldnt do it. so basically I think you should try to ease up on that, make it more of a personal fetish..dont ask her to do it infront of you, worst comes to worst, just utube girls blowing their nose or something. as for you being clingy, all I can say is if you really dont want to lose her then you need to back off a little. force yourself too, I dont know what else to tell ya, best of luck.=/

How about sitting down with her and agreeing that two days a week, you both take evenings apart. Or one night, if two is too much. This will give her opportunity to have a girls night, and get some space from you, to realize that she misses your company. Also, perhaps you can hang out with the guys, work out, watch the game, visit your parents or something. A little separation is very healthy for a relationship. Now, you can't call her on these two nights. The next night though, you can do something wild in the bedroom, or make her dinner or do one of your romantic things.
You should lay off the noseblowing thing though. I could totally see how it would make her uncomfortable. Every time she has a cold, you'd get turned on. If she gets a tickle in her nose and she's not in the mood, she won't want you to jump her or anything.
Also, sit down and talk to her about this. Ask her what SHE would like you to do to make her feel more comfortable in the relationship.

Talking...straight up

If in my recent breakup, if things were talked about when they needed to mentioned...we would still be happily together

never hold anything back, let your heart flow

you never know if you never try

The truth that you don't want to hear- you may not be in the right 'state' to be in a relationship. However, at this point- it seems that may be too unimaginable for you. So, lets accept you are in a relationship. I'm sure she is wonderful. Do you want her to think you are wonderful too? Well then Back Off! (I dont mean that in a rude way) Give her the opportunity to miss you! I promise you the clingyness and the overdoing will get to be a bit much and whether she wants to or not- she is gonna feel the need to pull away. Everyone needs space. New love is exciting, but if you want it to last- slow it down a little! The more you involve yourself in other things- the less obsessive you will feel. I'm not trying to be funny, but at the rate you're going, you are headed for a restraining order. Take it slow- and give her some air- she will come to you refreshed