Relationship bliss, down the drain.

Well I was with this guy, johny for about a month. I was starting to fall for him, and fall for him fast. I know, I know, a month dosen't seem like to long of a time for someone to fall for another. But he was perfect, I know I shouldn't say he was "perfect" becuase nobody is, but he was everything I could have dreamed of. We talked 24/7. non-stop. (which is another reason why I fell so fast.) There was only one problem, he lived 200 miles away. And trust me, long distance relationship are hard to be in, but they can work. After a couple weeks, I started noticing little things about him. He would call and tell me someother girl was looking at him, or asking for him number, little things like that. And I'm not a jealous person, so I would say little remarks such as: "oh, baby, she wants you! haha" or, "shes going to take you away from me!" but not in a serious matter whatsoever. He would get mad though. He would start yelling at me and telling me that I don't care about him. Things started getting worse from there. He would call and not talk to me becuase he was around his friends, he would start yelling and cussing at me. I knew from there I couldn't take it anymore. That day he called me and told me some girl just asked him to have sex with her. Shocked, I laughed and said "oh you should." and he blew up. He asked me "why would I say that? what the hell is your problem?!" then he said he was done with me. (ha, thanks buddy) I think he needs to find out who he is before he chanlegnes a woman to do it for him. I love him, I do. I'm afraid hes going to want to take me back though. I would love to, but I don't want to have to boss him around and change him, for me. Thats just not who I am. I need your advice. Thank you.

Personally, I would not take him back. I know that you love him, and that is completely understandable, but it doesn't sound like a relationship with him would get you anywhere that you want to be, at least not now. You should never have to "change" the person you love. You could always try the friends thing for a while, and see what happens. I wouldn't go rushing back into it with his temper.

Hope this helps!

Love doesn't ask someone to change, it normally also doesn't get upset over little comments. Maybe it's just him and things could be worked out if you made fewer comments, but he would have to as well. It sounds like he wants someone to be jealous over him. As far as the falling for him in a month it can certainly happen, but the fact you live 200 miles away makes seeing him much harder. Relationships have to be built on time spent together in person, not just time spent together on the phone =)

It is very disrespectful that he cusses at you. He seems to be a very insecured person and wants assurance from you. I know you are in love with him but it doesn't seem healthy to be in a relationship like that.

Well, girl, I am impressed by your good attitude and I really liked your story and the way you dealt with it. Bravo! By making up those things or at least exaggerating them he was trying to make you jealous, to make you more into him, to make you want him, to boost his selfesteem by that, so he got nervous because you were really funny and relaxed and his game didn't work. At a more serious level, he wants to feel you more involved (that you care). Maybe you know this already, 'cause you are really a cool girl Well, you have gone a little too far and he probably now thinks that you don't care about him. In my opinion, it's your move. If you do...
You will hurt his self esteem a little if he asks you back and that's not good for him. If he does it, he loves you, but still not good. This is why I said it's your move... Help him a little, don't play so cool, ok? You are leading this game, but if you like him, teach him how to take control. Show him you care.