What to do if she still talks to her ex?

ok..theres this girl i work with. ever since i started working there i had a crush on her. well i got a dog off her on day and she baby sat it for me a couple of times. using that to my benefit i got able to know her a little better and establish some...

what of a relationship with her. the thing is she had a boyfriend for two years. well one day her brother made fun of her in the office and i was laughing along with it. later that day she texted i shouldnt laugh when her brother makes fun of her. well that lead into a couple of hours texting. that also took place for about a week and the texts keep getting more and more flirtatious. when finally she came out and told me that i do something to her. i make her smile and laugh and she hopes when she gets a message it from me.. well i told her how i felt but told her i dont want to be that guy on the side, that if she wants to pursue this she needs to take care of her business with her man. so after a couple of days of texting and talking she broke up with him. and before you know it we started hanging out. from the first day we couldnt keep our hands off each other and yes we kissed the first time we hung out. well i guess you can say we jump in pretty quick. we been hanging out alot going out to diner movies mini golf and ball games. well her ex found out and just calls her non stop until she answers. she has told him that they should talk as much any more but just yesterday we went to a ball game and diner. we had such a great time talked the whole night really enjoyed ourselves and then the ex starting calling .. she started feeling bad and guilty and is just confused right now..we kinda talked and agree we did jump in to fast and she saids she needs time. i told her that i want her to be happy no matter what dont worry about me. if she wants to get back with ex , wants me to stop talking to her i will... i told her how i felt about her...also when we hang out or talk we both get really energetic and happy gigglie too. she told me i give her butterflies and other stuff like when i touch her it feels so good..i know shes in to me and we got something. its just bad timing .. she still wants to talk like today . she texted me when she got up and we talked twice both for over a hour a time. but i not sure exactly how she feels about the ex. cause i know she still kinda talks to him too..what should i do? i really like her and want to be with her, no matter how long it takes.. but should i try to show what i can do for her or dont i back off? hope this makes sense, cause i am confused.

Hi there. You should back off and give her time...no matter what she says. I experienced this a few years back. I broke up with my ex for someone else. This is really more complicated than you think. The relationship is new. You are both intrigued by eachother. You enjoy the thrill of the chase and would do anything to make her completely yours. I know all about this. You're not really thinking about the issues presented because you are enthralled by the newness. Three months down the line you may feel differently when her ex-boyfriend calls. If she wants you, she needs to break it off with this guy completely and ask him to stop calling. Eventually, you will become infuriated with his calling, and it will just cause problems..You are already questioning how she feels about her ex, so you are already insecure. She's obviously not completely happy with him but may just be using you as a rebound or because the newness of your relationship makes her feel special. She'll deny this if you ask her about it (of course). If she hasn't cut all ties with him..then you have to question whether she's sure about being with you either. In addition, if she broke up with her boyfriend for you...what makes you think she won't break up with you for someone else? Seriously. If you back off, she'll want you more. Do not be mean. Do not push her. Continue on as you were, but do not be available to her all the time. Call her less, see her less. It will be hard, but give her time to miss you. Make her wait and come to you just as you waited for her. Hope this helps!