Relationship advice

So here's my story: I met this girl June 13, 2008 and we started dating. I was home for the summer and August I was supposed to finish college, have the time of my life, live with my buddies. I was a popular respected student at college I played college...

ball and excelled in the classroom. So we started dating and everything was good obviously the first month. We went out and drank on the weekends, I would go visit her at work on my lunch break because she just worked right down the street. So I started to get to know about her and she had a boyfriend off and on for four years before me. They lived together, she had a miscarriage in October of 2007, they did drugs together, all the time. They sold drugs and lived in a bad part of syracuse but she promised she was through with him and she said they officially stopped talking 2 months before she met me so must of been April 2 months before she met me.
So we hit it off well, I met her step mom, and family. They all liked me. She said I was the sweetest guy, I was heaven sent blah blah blah. We got on the topic of a child. I figured since I was done school and all that we could try why not, this girl was all I wanted. so she thought since she had a miscarriage she *** have kids. So we found out July 27, 08 she was pregnant. Her first appointment she never invited me because she said we were in an agument. after we found out I went to a store, got her an engagement ring, set up this very romantic way at a restaurant I could ask her to marry me, in front of everyone there, and she said yes. So I gave her an engagement ring. So I felt like a rebound from day one but I went with it...so I asked her to come to school with me live with me for the half semester I was there and support me and be there for me. I was willing to get her a doctor out there for the time being (college was 3 hours away) she wasnt gonna have to pay for rent. she agreed and a week before I was ready to go she told me she didnt wanna go anymore. I got heart broken so my head was all over the place and I was even debating not finishing school, or finishing school online. when she found this out we were at a stoplight one day and she said everythings going my way. Was this a game? From day one I had insecurities, I worry a lot and always ask questions do you love me are you gonna hurt me blah blah blah, so she saw weakness in me. I've been hurt in the past because im too nice of a guy. Before school she went to her girlfriends house and said she was comming to my rents house after to sleep over, I waited up, didnt wanna bother her cause im that kinda guy I want her to have fun w her girls ad dont wanna bother her, so I waited and waited and finally call her and shes back at her dads. she said I figured you were sleeping so I didnt call you. she would just do little things to show me she didnt care, and that made me upset. I wanted a little love back. Another thing was 3 months after we met before I left for school my mom rented us a nice hotel room at a casino and me and jen went up to stay and she was getting rdy in the morning, I looked at her phone and saw 2 nights before she was talking to her ex boyfriend for 27 minutes, I asked her she said she didn’t know the number but when I called the number her ex’s voicemail picked up. She said sorry she should of told me. She said they talked and she gave him advice about his family, they were together 4 years I let it go. I wasnt like any guy she had, if her sandal fell off I would not only give it back to her id put it on her foot for her, thats the kind of guy I am. Finally I fought through it and they let me back into a school a month after it started because they knew me because of bball, and I knew the president of the school, it was a small d-3 school. She never was there for me, she knew I missed her and was hurting but she would swear at me, call me evil names, hang up on me, yeah it might of been the hormones but she took it out of control. So she said when I finished we could live together in an apartment and everything would be good.
While at school, SHE NEVER INVITED ME TO GO TO THE DOCTORS WITH HER, we would fight and I said I wanted to hear the babys first heartbeat and all. I came home, she didn’t let me go she said her stop mom was going, but she came over after to show me the first sonogram and I was hurt I couldn’t go. and she would ask me to come home on the weekend, a 6 hour total trip and she was so worth it at the time but when I would drive home (she knew I didnt wanna do that long drive I was drained out from fighting w her and bickering) I would get home to my parents and if she loved me she would of came right over, but no, it was like she just wanted to see if she could get me to come home. I would get home then she would call me and say im gonna take a nap first, then ill see you. I said no I just drove home if you wanna c me you shud come now. we would argue then I would go right back to school because I felt used

wow that seems like a vicious circle...I think shes crazy not to be in love with you, most of that was not fare to you, not letting you go to the doctors...I think you should have a serious talk with her and see where your relationship is going

2 tll you da truth I think diz relationship had its own problem in da bgiing and yall didnt build da trust wall hard enoff and so yall end up havin troubles on da way and since yall didnt new eachother that well yall didnt think I over when yall were deciding 2 take da relationship 2 da next level so a baby on da way made things even more complicated. I think yall were rushing things, yall should've waited a lil l8r before gettin 2 marriage and w/ da baby.n da first time that you felt uneasy d you shoud've told hur, you should'nt had let it w8 until more uneasy things build up that was mi opinion now here are sum advice if you will:
1)tlk 2 hur: since u've been in a relationship before and in da past dere mite not b pleasant times 4 you bt you no what da past iz da past so let it go so since you and jen are havin problems you should tlk it out tll hur how you feel and listen 2 HUR point of view. yall need 2 sit dwn and tlk calmly because da problem isnt gonna solve it itself. especailly w/ da ex-boyfriend thing tll hur 2 look at it 4rm your point of view and ask hur wont she b uneasy 2 if that were 2 happen 2 you and your ex.
2)da thing about she would just do little things to show me she didnt care that probably iz not true. yes she was inconsiderate when she did that bt you no that doesnt mean she doesnt care. I mean think about it, she've been w/ you 4 a while and she even have your child on da way. don't let that lil tiny thing upset you and don't let that make you mad at hur.
3)when she didnt invite you 2 go 2 the doctor w/ hur she was probably being considerate.u have school rite? and she doesnt want 2 bother u.u were thinking how she kant tll that your hurt inside and shes probably thinkin he has school mayb I shouldnt invite him or else he'll b worry about me you c da point iz don't just look at 1 side you want no what each other are thinkin and den that lil problem will bcome a bigger problem.
4)she's pregnant...
durin da pregnancy iz da woman's most difficult time, hur personality will change and she will b very cranky bt don't let it get 2 ya she will need a man 2 b der 4 hur and help hur and support hur thru dose difficult times
and you no as a man I think you should endure it, I mean diz iz da woman that you dcided 2 spend da rest of your life w/ shes da only 1 you want and even if you are a good guy (u even sound like 1)
I think sumtime you kan b very selfish and only think of your own point of view -same w/ your girl.like while your thiking of how she dose things 2 make it seem like she doesnt care and shes sitting home thinking of you keep on makin xcuses 2 shake up diz relationship. you c? bt its not like that rite?n when shes pregnant don't you think she'll b lonely 2?u probably aint da only 1 hu was doin da missin and hopin 2 c each other. when shes pregnant I bet she would want 2 c hur man, want him 2 b next 2 hur just 4 da heck of it because she just need that security. finally TRUST its all about trust in diz thing you were being insecure because you just don't no how important your existing iz 2 hur. you just have 2 trust hur you no what I mean?diz relationship aint that hard 2 deal w/ if 1 of you would just take a step back , quit arguin, think about da enjoyable times yall spent 2gether, look at da situation and say babe lets work it out!

I feel so sorry for you

you shouldnt let girls take advantage over you like that

Hey man,
I know you asked this question 2 months ago and I KNOW you have been through hell since then. I myself have went through this craziness with me ex for the past 6 years. she got pregnant, she threatened abortion, she swallowed a handful of pills. the list goes on and on. and the whole time whe is using me making me feel so much pity for her I fought like hell for her. yours sounds the same way. they try their best to separate you from everyone you care about. friends, family, hobbies, anything you cared about before. the funny thing is you stop caring about those things. you just want peace again. I feel so sorry for you because you like me have a child with this person. you need to get into counseling immediately for yourself and your child. these type of people will drive you crazy along with them. the best thing you can do to defeat this person is show them you don't care a bit about them, even when you do. love that kid of yours and be a great dad. and try to love yourself again enough to leave that bit** alone.