How can I leave an abusive relationship?

I am here to ask for some advise on how to leave an abusive relationship,I have 3 children and one with my abuser,she's a year old this month,I want to get away from him more then anything,but it seems like every time I try to leave,I feel a huge magnet pulling me back and keeping me from actually leaving.I have been with him for 2 and a half years and he is verbally abusive ALL the time,and he has been physically abusive a number of times.I just don't know where to turn anymore,I don't want to end up in a shelter with the kids.Please,anything will be helpful,Thank you all for your time,And Happy Mothers Day to all the Mommies!!!!.0

actually theres some questions you need to ask yourself. are you sure you want to leave after 2 and a half years of relations. you said theres this magnet pulling you back, is this magnet the reason for you to carry on with this relationship? is this magnet your spouse?
maybe you should talk to your husband about how you feel, of course not when he is in a foul mood. but when times are much better. you could also show some affectionate by getting him something that he really likes eg. a tie. that might strengthen the bond between you both=)

good luck

Ok everybody knows that once a guy hits you that is it he asks you to forgive him and you do but he does it again. trust me when I was in a relationship I dated this guy for 2 years and he started to be control. and one time he pushed me to the wall and tried to hit me so I called it quits I was not going to wait around for the day to come. im sorry but you should not have to put up with this. no woman should get out while you can. im sure you have family around that will help you and hey CHILD SUPPORT for the baby you guys got. dont stay in that relationship. otherwise you will be miserable for the rest of your life. dont let your children grow up and have a father figure that way. good luck in what you decide. there are plenty of good men out there that will accept you for who you are and love your children just turn to god and he will guide you.

sweetie you know there are many guys who would like to have you and take care of your baby. this moron cant . do you want your baby dead do you want 2 be dead ? I dont think so . you better start thinking so what if you love him you need to think about your baby . when your baby grows up do you want her to to be abussed like you by her husband. you know what you need to do , you must leave . by the way take that idoit to court !

be strong for your baby!

of course she needs to leave!!!!!!! nothing matters except the fact that he is abusive, that is the last thing she needs, and the last thing the kids need to be around. its always hard to start over, and the fear of being alone is always there, but you need to do whats best for the kids, and you as well. 'babylove' is crazy in even suggesting that you try to work it out. my first husband was both physically, and mentally abusive, so was my father to my mother, it took her 6 years to realize that he would never change, and to get out, and it took me 4 stupid, long years. now, I am much better off, when I left him I had no job, or money of my own, because he wouldnt let me work, and controled all the money, but luckily I had family I could lean on. my son and I moved in with my parents, and I got a job at a local day care center, that way my son had daycare for free, and I wasnt just working to pay daycare. I put myself through, and then got a job at a local hospital. I met a wonderful man, he is a corrections officer, and the best husband, and father to my son I could ask for. I've never been this happy, and didnt think it was possible. he treats me so good, he is always so nice and respectful, even in anger, he has never once done anything to make me think he would ever hurt me, or my son, and he loves him like his own. that is what you need, and that is what every woman deserves, not what you are getting.

First off I just want to say how sorry I am that you have to deal with that...it's never fun to be abused, physically or mentally...
Love is not enough these days...people like to talk, but don't like to follow through...
It sounds like you know what is in your heart, but maybe you are having some attachment issues, in which you feel so
comfortable with this man, that you don't know how to function outside his grasp.
But think...your not only responsible for yourself, but for your children...and do you really want them
feeling like you do right now one day? You don't want them to resent you one day for staying with a man that
is abusive. My mom is still with a guy that is so mentally abusive to me everyday, and I wonder why she
doesn't pick me over the guy...but that's up to her...and the decision to leave is up to you....
Another reason you might not want to be leaving is out of fear...but you have got to stand up
and make sure that you and your kids are safe, because with a guy like that...more times than usual, if the
man is verbally, and physically abusive, he can get sexually abusive, and that's never a good idea...
if you are feeling scared, a shelter is a good idea for a little while, just to hide....or somewhere out of state....
Good Luck...and you can always talk to me if you need it...
I will never lie to you....
Hope I helped
<3jaymie

I really don't no where to start. Even though I don't know you I want to give you the strengh to leave I no its hard because you have kids but if your not going to leave for you, please do it for the kids, its only a matter of time before he starts abusing them and that can be the worst. Please let go of everything and just leave. I really don't know how it is to live in that house with you but you have to ask your self whats best for you and your kids, trust me their nothing worst for a kid to see someone hurting their mom..trust me I a kid myself. Please if you see this send me a fun mail.
Good Luck