Relationship

im 19 been with my girlfriend a year now. As you have probably read in a previous asking question post I did I was pissed off at that point.

Been on a break with my girl friend of 18 a few days now.

passed day or 2 mainly today I have found my self feeling upset and angry. I know lads aint ment to show upset for girls as am only 19 also most lads are like get off to the pub and pull someone else or something. But that doesnt really solve the problem.

I think of me and my girl friend when we first ever met, she seemed nice, I tuck her out I treater her to what she wanted. and she was really polite and nice when she met my parents. I had lots of fun with her, I dont have any brothers or sisters so she was a lot of good company for me, moor like a best friend as well as a girl friend.

Me and my girl friend never started off as mates. we text and chatted on phone before meeting and when we met we was kissing and became boyfriend and girlfriend...big mistake really, always best to be mates first.

I always remember the good times we had...my view of how she was then make me feel really happy but sad because shes not the same no moor. She started off not wanting me to see mates and then her lies and on and on till it got really bad...I dont want to get mad with her...shout at her...upset her...thats all we do to eatch other now...she wont let go she says shes in love...but I dont feel its she same as it was when we first met...I tell her how I feel all the time...I tell her I dont like her lies but she never lisens...I dont know why...

I think she may have issues in the passed with people to make her be possesive or what ever it is...all I wanted to do is help her be there for her...she can be a lovley lass but I carnt carry on with not seeing friends and the lies and stuff...I dont want to keep hurting eatch other...

its so hard to beleive how nice I thought / felt she was its like shes a diff person now..shes not loving its all fake I feel shes chaged all fake...and it hurts...I carnt no longer force my self to be with her...she also now says nasty things about my family too...its all got out of hand with arguments...im not a arguing person...all I want to do is go to work and do well and have someone to care for and love and who will return it nicly...I thought thats who she was but maby not...

it feels like a dream...like I found the girl I wanted but now I carnt get through to her at all...no matter what I say do or buy her she will never be that nice bubly baby I used to have she is so argrssive and bossy now.

she says I hurt her all the time...but she wont leave me...she wont lisen to how I feel at all...she just wants me to be with her 24/7 and have no life.

I use to have good fun with her...I felt so close...she was my first long relationship...she dont have many friends...I thought I wud help her by getting her in with my friends but she through it back at me by saying nasty things about me to my friends

Maybe she's afraid that you will leave her and she's acting out. You can try your best to change her back...you know. Do what she asks and so on. But don't take a lot of crap from her. Just continue to tell her how you feel about the situation, but don't yell and argue about it. Try to negotiate with her. If you can't change her, then the best I can say is leave her. Try to settle the relationship with her so you'll feel better about the relationship. It seems like when you were dating she seemed different from when you became serious. Some people are like that. That's definitely why you should be friends FIRST, rather than jump into things. So you know what will bother you about that person, and if you even have things in common or if it's going to work out. She's giving you a guilt trip by saying you hurt her all the time, because you obviously don't by what you wrote. She's hurting you more. Try not to listen to her, she seems as if she's trying to manipulate you. Stay strong and try to settle this so you feel better about it and about yourself.

Ok, well if this is the case, go ahead and talk to her about it, I do not think that you should stunt it that much..if she means that much to you, then work it out... good luck..
xx.
superfresh.