Is he just a really bad flirt?

Ok so unsuprisingly I've never had a boyfriend, I've never even been first base and im 16 which to be honet isnt whats really bugging me. I realise im not a pretty face, im kinda different etc. But what im mainly struggling with is even looking boys in the eye...or telling (a crush who I'll call bob) BOB =D how I feel about him. Bob admits hes shallow which leaves me doubting my chances even more. I got to know him on myspace and our friendship kinda grew fom there only I've only met him once but we used to talk like for hours on end on the phone and Msn and apparently he told my friend he liked me and he was aware I liked him. But suddenly we didnt even have a friendship anymore it just suddenly drifted away and he was into sum other girl and that soon ended because "she was a d**k" apparently. We do tal abit now...but it just seems akward, and I carnt help but think its my fault, I look abit different then I do when we first met...I died my hair more piercings etc is it my fault? how can we get back what we used to have? he never failed to put a smile on my face and all ym problems didnt seem as big...I just dont want to loose him =[ not even as a friend...sorry fot the essay haha it just kinda flowed thanx for your time xxx

Dear xxuniquechickxx,

It seems to me, as if you don't have a lot of confidence and faith in yourself when it comes to dating, and that's what you need altogether when you date someone - Confidence. Sometimes, it's really hard and somewhat challenging to get a guy to be your boyfriend, especially a guy friend.

It's hard to tell a guyfriend that you have deep feelings for them, I know. Considering that this friend of your's, *Bob admitted to a friend of your's that he liked you, and that he knew that you liked him back, of course it is going to be awkward to talk to him afterwards as if nothing happen, but things seem to mold back together has time goes on, and indeed, time does heal everything.

I, personally think something will happen between you and Bob. There is some love there. You just have to give it time, and see what happens. However, he may change his mind, and see you as a friend again, but his feelings may remain the same. He accepts you for who you are, and you're different. We're all different in our own way, and you should be proud to be who you are! I wish you the best of luck!

Sincerely, Danielle