Realationships

I have been with my now fianc�©e for nearly 3 years. We have a 2 year old whom is wonderful and everything seemed great. We were/are kind of... planning a wedding that has a date set and everything. Then about 8 mos ago my fianc�©e started acting very much out of the ordinary. He has not wanted to have sex, he said he is having a hard time understanding who he is now...that he has lost himself. I have helped him to NO END to try and resolve this and be there for him. He started complaining about things that he would never even think to complain about, and just got rude he is not abusive and is just a really nice person truely but, would say things I just never pictured him to say. This was already bothersome for me and then something else happend an old boyfriend called. One that I have never been able to completly retrieve my enitre heart back from. He was my first love. We broke up on very bad surcumstances. And he has been doing everything in his power to get us back to a place we use to be. It has not only been confusing but, depressing for me. Because I have that overwhelming tingly feeling for him and that feeling has seemed to dissipate from my relationship w/ my fianc�©e. I feel like a horrible person... I AM NOT saying this just to get pitty I truely feel horrible about myself. I am supose to be getting married in a little less than a year, and have been having these feelings for an ex. My fianc�©e and I share soo much...more a child, a home, a family. So I keep thinking to myself this should be such an easy decision, tell that EX of mine to get lost he's the one that messed up. But, it just isn't that simple for me. I think it has a lot to do with how I was raised which was pretty badly.. to make a longer story shorte my ex had always been my Knight in shining armor. My fianc�©e said he thinks he has been acting the way he has because he was feeling simaliar to the way I am now exept just has been feeling not for a particular person instead a feeling of forever and what exacly FOREVER means. He never said anything to me though, until now. He says that he is over that now and feels much better and is ready to move on fully loaded and get back to planning the biggest event of most peoples lifes "The Wedding". Just now I am not completly ready. But, all I keep thinking to myself is does your heart change. The thoughts keep dancing in my head that I am still in love w/ my Ex in some way that I have yet to determine...exept for I know when I'm anywhere around him my heart stops and I get that feeling that I want sooo horribly want with my fianc�©e. It's like I have the tinglies for my ex and the reality w/ my fianc�©e. I have been basing my decsion souly on my son and family life so far. I always wished to have two parents that we're there and just provided the best care possible for me. I think that may be hard to achieve with a daddy here and a mommy there. But, also do not know if having a realtionship based on our son is healthy for any of us. I am soo confused about my life right now. I have been through MUCH worse and can not understand why this situation is breaking me down so quickly. It seems that all I can think about in my free time is this ...and almost always. I guess I have made it very diffucult for anyone to answer me because I have not even asked a question. I am just at wits end and came across this site. Hopefully someone can concede with something I have had to say Or will have some type of advice.
Thank you,
Dazed'N'Confused.

wow thats bad but you need to be mature and stick w/what you have...yeah you still have feelings for that guy and you need to tell him that but also tell him its not possible because of your child....and to keep you sumwere in a corner you know until later if you and your guy dont work out and if your ex really has feelings for you then hel accecpt you have a child and try to adapt to that....but id suggest you stay w/your guy you have and be strong about your expierence and itl better for you in the future.......... But if your guy keeps acting weird smack him up side the head and tellem to get right or he's gnna have more issues if he dosent get his shiit together.....I mean I dont understand how that can happen to someone unless they are really ensecure about thereselves and are have a major pity party...mabye you should compliment him and have plenty of sex and then bragg to him how good it is (lie if you have to) and itl boost his confidence and I guarantee hel snap out of his phase! yours truly
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