Ready for sex..

Okay, so I am in a great relationship with an amazing guy. Our whole relationship is NOT based on sex or oral sex or anything of the sort. We get along great and I am absolutly in love with him, no questions asked. My boyfriend and I just started with fingering and handjobs recently and I have a feeling it is going to go farther very soon and I know I am ready for it. My period will be done on Wed. and I am going to see him Friday. We WILL use a condom but how likely is it that I will get pregnant. That is my biggest fear. Also, give me some good tips to make it a good expierence for the both of us.

Thank you.

Sounds like you really are ready. Well of course setting the mood is a 1/3 of the battle so turning on some light music with lights dim is always good. Start off slow and have fun because the more nervous you are the less you'll enjoy it. Key thing is to just relax and go with the flow. If you don't like what he's doing then tell him so. Move his hands where you want them to go because he'll probably be a lot more nervous than you will be and if you haven't already discussed what you like then he'll be nervous on how to perform for you so tell him while guiding him. And don't just lay there like a log, make some noises or facial expressions or something to know that you at least enjoy it lol.

well you sound confident in your desicion so im not ganna tell you to wait. to make sure you have a less of a chanceof getting pregnant I would suggest to use a female condom. they are said to be safer and dont use two because then they are sure to break. also I would suggest on reading up and knowing everything you can to learn about sex. also take birth control just to be extra safe. and use plenty of lub or spermicide. to make this the best experience ever just take it slow and communicate thats the key. good luck and hope I helped ~kaitlyn~

What's spermicide?

alexis- Spermicide attempts to kill any sperm that may slip from the condom or if the condom were to break.

Well to continue what everyone else is saying... I don't want to overload you with to much stuff. Im pretty sure you will be fine just with a condom... but if you are going to continue regular sex then its suggested that you start getting on birth control ... and also use a condom. I would say for your age a female condom would probably not be the best bet... a lot of the % of failure associated with condoms and all the other contraceptives is user error... so make sure when he puts on the condom he does it right and you should be fine... and make sure to use trojans and nothing else... I have never had a trojan break. Just to give you a little run down on how to put on a condom... when you take it out of the wrapper try not to touch it on the inside hold on to the rim of it... the condom is rolled in a certain way when you push down the sides on to the shaft of the guys pen*s it should roll down easy... you can use your thumb and your pointer finger in a circle like you are doing the 'ok' sign then slide the rim down the shaft... once you get it all the way down make sure you squeeze the air out of the tip... also known as the reservoir just all you need to do is use your thumb and pointer finger to squeeze on the little nipple of the condom... most importantly making sure you do not let your nails get in the way.

As for everything else... you will both probably be nervous your first few times... just make sure you are in a safe location where no one will bother you... and make sure to relax take it easy... and make sure there is a lot of foreplay so you are are warmed up... it may hurt a little the first few times... but just tell him to take it easy and commuicate... that is the key to this whole thing.

If you want to get free birth control you can get it from plannedparenthood.com look up your city and go into one of there locations... its free and your parents don't need to know about it.

Best of luck..

It's very good that you are positive you are ready. Condoms are 80=90 Percent effective and even more so if they fit and are used properly.